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I posted this in beyondthebump, but essentially we got excited because our 'gentle' sleep training approach worked really well for about a month - 5.5 month old would go down at 7:30pm, maybe fuss in the night a couple of times but settle himself, and sleep through till about 6:30am. Now at 6.5 months, he's down at about 7pm, waking at 2am and wanting to be held and walked around for a full hour, then finally going down around 3am and waking up at 5am, ready to start the day!
His wake windows vary, but he has 4 naps per day ranging between 35 and 70 mins. I know it should be more consistent. Because it's been hot where we live (and no AC), we've been putting him down for most naps without the sleep sack, but I'm noticing that he sleeps less without one, so we'll have to experiment with ultralight ones or other temperature hacks. (He's always in the sleep sack for actual bedtime.)
Any insight on what might be going wrong here? We're desperate :(

Dear tourists of all types, today we are here on a special visit to the Mud Kingdom to start our lessons on the single tribes of Pyrrhia.
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As you may have understood from the flyer delivered to you before the visit, today we are here to talk about the Mudwings, Brown Dragons, Swamp Dragons or whatever you want to call them.
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(Disclaimer: due to various problems with the sources received, some information may be outdated or incorrect. The Mudwings public and any other species or tribe are asked not to be offended but to report various errors to the reception - the comments. Our director will take care to send apology letters and correct. Thank you for your support)
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Mudwings are by far the largest and most massive tribe on the entire continent, thanks to the large amount of muscle mass, adapted to move in the difficult swampy environment.
They're easy to recognize by their Gigachad-like square jaw, armor-like scales, and brown, very brown colors (there are many shades of brown, but it's always brown).
They are, in biological terms, very close relatives of Skywings and Icewings, notable by the shape of the wings (no patagium attached to the body).
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Their powers and abilities are very similar to what a human being would imagine thinking of the word "dragon".
In fact they are incredibly strong and resistant to blows and can breathe fire (only in hot environments, for adaptive factors). They also have amphibious capabilities such as being able to hold their breath for exactly one hour (not a second more or less).
Furthermore, they are the only species capable of withstanding fire. Or at least, some of them. Mudwings hatched from a blood-red egg have great heat resistance on their scales (up to 1500°C, don't ask where we got this data from), but they can still get burned if the wound is too deep or too extensive. There is no genetic correlation between red eggs and two normal Mudwings will still lay a blood red egg.
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Since they're unlucky and it didn't serve the plot, they don't have Animus.
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The Mudwings company is peculiar.
In fact, these dragons live in well separated social groups, made up of brothers and brood mates. They are born together and take care of each other, staying together for life. A Mudwings without a group can still join another group or create one with other outcasts like him (no offense)
At birth, the parents leave the unattended nest and the cubs are already independent of them, since they base their survival on the help of brothers and sisters.
The first born of the group is usually the leader ("Bigwings", which denotes a particular lack of imagination for names without the word "wings") and helps the other eggs to hatch (absolutely dangerous, not to be done at home).
Sibling love is so high that the Mudwings queens trust their group more than their advisors, and we've never heard of queens being challenged by their own sisters (but I'm pretty sure it's happened sometime in 5,000-odd years ).
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Mudwings houses are bizarre egg-shaped dormitories that one would say, "Aren't they kinda small for a dragon?", only to find entire groups living inside a single one. In these safe dormitories mothers lay their eggs, making a last charitable gesture to the puppies before abandoning them to their fate.
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The Mud Kingdom is a huge swamp east of Pyrrhia, next to the Sky Kingdom and above the rainforest. It extends to the Diamond Spray River Delta (in the north, where the lower class Mudwings live) and exists for the many emissaries of the river.
A kilometer swamp of mud, weeds, water reeds, gurgling rivers and small clods of earth on which sad trees grow. The proliferation of mosquitoes exceeds the limits allowed by the WHO, so diseases such as malaria and yellow fever abound among the few humans who live here.
Animals like hippos, alligators and snakes abound, although some talk about crocodiles as big as full-grown dragons (isn't a dragon essentially a crocodile as big as a dragon in fact?).
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-For new Mudwings groups, there is a practical PDF format that can be downloaded from the Human-Dragon Interspecies Government Body website (Languages and Names section) with numerous tips on how to live in peace with your group
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Thanks to all our dear tourists for your attention and participation.
See you at the next guide with "Tribe of Pyrrhia: Skydiving with Skywings"

We have an old insurance website that ranks well. It brings in decent traffic. Unfortunately the traffic isn't targetted at what we want - leads. Instead, it's people looking for info on their old/defunct policies. Getting 20-30 calls a day for people asking 'grandpa had a policy from 1963, can you tell me about the policy'. Taking up a huge amount of time, and no money.
Seeking thoughts on how we could monetize the traffic, and help shut down the calls.
My thoughts:
1) redesign the website to retarget different traffic. 2) offer a paid report 'here's who to call if you're looking for insurance comapny x'.
3) offer a paid 1/2 hour consulting call for us to figure out what your policy is and direct you to the appropriate cust. service department at the appropriate insurance company.
2 and 3 seem easy enough, but I suspect the payoff won't be worth the effort. 1 seems like it's going to far more effort and time than makes sense.
Ideas on what you'd do with that? (thanks!)

Hi everyone,
Shipping from California to US only. Did my best to price appropriately, but if something seems off, let's talk.
$5 unlimited shipping. $20 minimum to ship. Paypal Goods and Services only.
Grading is record/sleeve.
If interested, please comment and then send a message/chat. Would LOVE to trade. Trade list of wants is at the bottom.
Thanks for looking!
Almon Memela - Funky Africa NM/NM - $20 Played once, in shrink.
Art Pepper - Early Art VG+/VG+ - $15
Sleeve has corner cut on spine side and is a little dirt/ringwear on bottom and top which is a bit more visible with it being an off white color jacket. Most of the record plays quite well but there are a couple tics at the beginning of the second track on the fourth side. Happy to send pics.
Atmosphere - Seven's Travels NM/NM - $20 Played once.
Bob Marley - 20 Greatest Hits VG+/VG+ - $10
Bob Marley - Catch a Fire VG+/VG+ - $20
Runouts of this, but labels of this. Name on label in pen.
Byron Janis - Piano Concertos VG+/VG+ - $15
Cal Tjader - Soul Sauce NM/NM - $20
Derek and the Dominos - Layla and Other Assorted Love Songs VG+/STRONG VG $15
(Creasing to bottom of cover near spine. Initials in blue marker on bottom right of cover.)
Horace Silver - Song For My Father VG+/VG+ - $25 (With Obi)
Jack McDuff - Magnetic Feel VG+/VG+ - $15
Junior Mance Trio - That's Where It Is VG+/NM - $10 in shrink.
Kim So Hee - Pansori Korea's Epic Vocal Art Instrumental Music VG+/VG - $20 (name on label in pen)
Les Baxter and his Orchestra - The Primitive and the Passionate VG+/VG+ - $10
Lonnie Smith - Keep On Lovin' VG+/VG - $15 Sleeve has some significant creasing near top, most prominent on back, happy to send pics.
Me First and the Gimme Gimmes - Take a Break NM/NM - $20 Played once, in shrink.
Miles Davis - Porgy and Bess VG+/VG+ - $25
In shrink. It is a 6 eye and could be this listing or possibly this one.
Miles Davis - Quiet Nights VG+/VG+ - $20 in shrink.
Not 100% sure this is the right Discogs listing, Runouts end with 1k on A side and 1AF on B side.
Muscle Shoals Horns - Doin' It To The Bone VG+/VG - $12
Nilsson - Nilsson Schmilsson STRONG VG/VG - $10
plays clean except some noise for first 45 seconds or so of Without You which is kind of annoying. Sleeve in pretty good shape but big ol Promo timing strip deal across bottom half of cover
Nilsson - The Point (LSPX-1003) presumed M/M - $40 (Can't tell which pressing exactly since sealed but US 70s)
Oscar Peterson Trio - Night Train VG+/NM - $35 (RE6 on A RE3 on B with scratch outs) Borderline NM all around
Oscar Peterson - Plays the George Gershwin Song Book VG+/VG+ - $10
Paul Desmond - Easy Living NM/NM $40 (In shrink, beautiful)
Ramones - Subterranean Jungle VG+/VG+ $30
(name written on labels, small price sticker on top right front of jacket.)
Ramones - Too Tough To Die VG+/VG+ - $35
(Name on label in pen, creasing and a little bit of sticker residue on cover.)
Rusty Bryant - Fire Eater NM/NM - $25
Sam Coffey and the Iron Lungs - Sam Coffey and the Iron Lungs - NM/NM - $10
Stan Getz/Joao Gilberto - Getz/Gilberto - VG+/NM - $35 in shrink.
Stan Getz / Charlie Byrd - Jazz Samba STRONG VG/STRONG VG - $10
Various - A Motown Christmas VG+/VG+ - $30
Various - Funky Stuff: The Best of Funk Essentials Volume One VG+/STRONG VG - $12 (creasing on bottom right corner of sleeve)
Vince Guarald - Oh, Good Grief! VG+/NM - $25 (borderline NM on media, in shrink.)
4 for $20 shipped:
(Mostly VG+ records with VG+ or VG covers. Some are in worse condition. I will double check condition prior to finalizing any transaction to make sure condition is accurately disclosed prior to purchase and happy to send pictures etc.)
Aerosmith - Live! Bootleg
Bob James - Heads
Bread - The Best of Bread
Bread - The Best of Bread Volume Two
Bud Shank - Bud Shank and the Sax Section (worst album cover art ever. Lazy Eye+Unibrow)
Charlie Byrd - The Great Byrd
Charlie Byrd - Hollywood Byrd
Charlie Byrd - Sketches of Brazil
Cliff Richard - Best 20 (South Korean record)
Colin James Hay - Looking For Jack
The Crusaders - Unsung Heroes
Elton John - 17-11-70
Elton John - Blue Moves
Elton John - Rock of the Westies
Enoch Light and the Brass Menagerie - The Brass Menagerie 1973
Greg Kihn - Again
jj - JJ N 3 - NM/NM
Jim Croce - You Don't Mess Around with Jim
Johnny Hodges - The Eleventh Hour
Judy Collins - Recollections
Kano - New York Cake VG+/VG (promo timing strip on cover)
Kenny G - Duotones
Les Baxter His Orchestra And Chorus - Voices In Rhythm
Lionel Hampton and Orchestra - Lionel
Loverboy - Get Lucky
Mark Colby - Serpentine Fire
Mates of State - All Day VG+/VG+
Michael Stanley Band - Heartland
Mike Rutherford - Smallcreep's Day
Mystic Moods Orchestra - One Stormy Night
Pete Seeger - We Shall Overcome
Rick Springfield - Tao
Rick Springfield - Beautiful Feelings
Rick Wakeman - Journey to the Centre of the Earth
Roy Acuff and His Smoky Mountain Boys - The Best of Roy Acuff: Songs of the Smoky Mountains
The Rubinoos - Back to the drawing board
The Rubinoos - Party of Two
Tropea - Tropea VG+/VG+
Vangelis - Opera Sauvage
Various - The Montreux Collection
Vic Feldman - Mallets A Fore Thought G+/G
Windham Hill Records Sampler '82
Wings - London Town
LOOKING TO TRADE FOR AND/OR BUY THESE:
Charles Kynard - Woga
Donald Byrd - Kofi
Funk Inc. - Chicken Lickin'
Grateful Dead - Wake of the Flood
Harold Ousley - The Kid!
Horace Silver Quintet - Cape Verdean Blues
Ike Quebec - Bossa Nova Soul Samba
Keith Jarrett - The Survivor's Suite
Melvin Sparks - Akilah!
Neal Creque - Contrast!
O'Donel Levy - Simba
Pucho & His Latin Soul Brothers - Jungle Fire!
Teddy Edwards - Nothin' But The Truth!
Wavves - V
Yusef Lateef - Detroit
Primarily looking for Jazz/Funk type stuff, so if you have something along those lines let me know!

I want to come just for Friday but stay for Vulfpeck which is from 12:45-2am. Am I allowed to do this? Anyone know? Even able to possibly sleep in my car a few hours and pull out Saturday morning?

I am 25 years old, 6'5 ~194cm), male, 215 pounds (~97kg).
I lift weights frequently. I used to play basketball frequently; have been diagnosed with patellar tendonitis (Jumper's knee) before. Well, I hadn't played in about 1 year, and I played for about 2.5 hours 7 days ago.
There was no acute injury, no "pop" or sudden sharp pain. I left the court feeling fine.
About one hour later, weird pain started occuring in my knees, my left knee more than the right (I jump more often off of the left.) I couldn't kneel down- it felt like a tendon was winding up like a bow string and 'popping' every time I tried to kneel down. It was violent enough to be audible 5 feet away. To be specific where this occured, it was on the inner side of the vastus medialus, seemingly above the quadriceps tendon. This would occur every single time I tried to bend flex the knee that night.
The next day, that symptom was gone. Both knees seemed to hurt equally, both are somewhat swollen.
Since then, the symptoms have not changed at all, however there are two new knee symptoms that have presented in the left leg- a popliteal cyst that shrinks/enlarges instantly based on knee movement, and tenderness of the MCL, only upon palpation. The cyst grows large enough to impinge full extension if I squat for like 5 seconds with weight on it. The knee does not really feel unstable and doesn't seem to have any unusual valgus.
I will answer any questions. Thank you so much for helping.

The Stretching Guide
Jewelry-
Wearing quality jewelry is one of the most important parts of the stretching journey. The best material(s) for stretching first and foremost are “Single-Flare Glass Plugs” or just glass jewelry in general; while single flare implant grade Titanium and Niobium are safe to use it is important to get it from a trusted makeseller to ensure the grade labeled is true to the product. Acrylic, silicone, cheap metal, double-flared as well as natural (e.g., wood, stone, horn) jewelry should never be used to stretch piercings let alone in freshy pierced flesh. Here’s why!
Acrylic: Materials like acrylic are quite easily scratched and dented even in packaging which can lead to irritation, and while acrylic is sold as jewelry it is not currently available in a biocompatible or “medical grade” version(s) in the jewelry trade, this means it is extremely hard to know the actual quality and with all the additives used to cheapen the product and worst case scenario leach these chemicals out of the jewelry. This honestly makes them a poor choice in all scenarios. Cheap Metals: Cheap metal jewelry can be safely presumed to be low quality in many ways, either being low polished, coated in low quality metals or just not the proper grade in general. This can lead to swelling and irritation in most cases. If you are going to choose to wear cheap/low-grade jewelry it is important to be sure the area for it to be used in is fully healed beforehand. Silicone: In this case there is a medical grade silicone jewelry provider, ‘Kaos Soft Wear’. Silicone is a poor choice for stretching as it can easily lead to micro-tears, blowouts, irritation, and infection. High-grade silicone is an excellent choice for healed piercings and after stretching has healed but not during either process. Natural Materials: These materials include wood, horn, stone, bamboo, and bone. Though these materials may surpass many types of jewelry in aesthetics they make a poor choice to stretch with and for initial piercings due to their porousness. This aids in trapping bacteria which of course can lead to the worst case, infections, if a blowout were to occur and irritation because of the larger pores in the surface. Having this happen during a stretch or initial piercing can make for a very poor experience which is why it is only recommended to wear these pieces in properly healed holes.
We always recommend buying your jewelry from a well-known manufacturer. Here are some quality jewelry manufacturers:
· Anometal
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• Industrial Strength
• NeoMetal
• Glasswear Studios
• Gorilla Glass

Why Glass Single-Flare Plugs?-
Single-flare glass plugs are the best choice due to having a gentle but steep tapered end making insertion of the jewelry easy and comfortable when your body is ready. Being extremely smooth, non-porous, weighing less than other metal jewelry and with the ability to be autoclaved make it an excellent choice for stretching and fresh piercings alike!
O-Rings-
O-rings are regularly available in Nitrile and Silicone. Though usually safe, some people may have allergies to either of these materials. Signs of an allergy from your O-ring will usually result in redness or itchiness at the location of the O-ring, but it’s important to note not to confuse an allergy irritation with your ears not being ready to stretch as blowouts usually result in the days to come and not so much immediately after stretching. People who do use O-rings can often have trouble keeping them on, whether it be while sleeping or throughout the day, but there is a hopeful fix! The X-Ring - Nitrile No-Roll O-Rings. These O-rings stay where you need them much better than normal O-rings... Unfortunately, they only come in sizes from 8g to 1"(25mm)
Stretching Basics-
Keeping your Piercings Healthy:
Lubrication is necessary when stretching and with everyday maintenance/care. The products below are particularly good for keeping your lobes healthy & moisturized and when mixed with beeswax, they will work for twice as long!
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• Jojoba Oil
• Coconut Oil
• Avocado Oil
• Emu Oil
• Raw Cocoa Butter
• Vitamin E oil

Always keep your lobes well lubricated!
Especially when inserting jewelry! This helps keep your skin happy and healthy, along with this the process of massaging the area is also beneficial in itself!
-How to Make "Ear Butter"
It is incredibly simple to make your own ear butter.
For it you’ll need the following ingredients:
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• Coconut Oil = 1 TBSP
• Vitamin E Oil = 1 TBSP
• Jojoba Oil = 1 TBSP
• Raw Organic Cocoa Butter = 1 TBSP
• Emu Oil (AEA Certified Always) = 1 TBSP
• Organic Beeswax = 1 TBSP for a soft "butter," or 2 TBSP for a firmer mix

Instructions:
1. You will need two pots, a large pot filled with water, and a small pot to set inside the larger pot which will float on top of the water. This is how you make a double boiler.
2. Place pots on stove, on Low heat.
3. Add all ingredients to the small pot.
4. Slowly allow all the ingredients to melt together.
5. Stir thoroughly & pour into small mason jar or other container and allow to cool at room temperature.
6. When cooled, it should be creamy to slightly firm depending on the amount of beeswax you decide to use. *If it is too hard for your liking, melt mixture back down and add more oils. If it is too soft add more beeswax.*
When you’re stretching your ears and the area has healed, it’s important while oiling and massaging them to also practice being without them. This helps promote a healthier lobe by helping with circulation and prevention of thinning. However, some people may not be able to leave their plugs out for long periods of time but the point is to allow your lobes to rest each day while still being able to gently insert your jewelry again after said period of time. There are of course exceptions such as when you are planning to or have recently stretched already. You should be leaving your jewelry in while you sleep for two to four weeks before and after stretching but should still be removed for about an hour after showering or cleaning once a day to massage and lubricate them. While youre lobes are initially stretching try not to sleep on them and instead sleep on your back if possible or use a specially made pillow like a travel pillow.
· Ear Piercing Pillow
If you happen to have had a blowout that has healed and are trying to reduce the “cat-butt” look, lubricating, and massaging your lobes three times a day may prove to be beneficial, as well, downsizing, may prove beneficial and may also help thicken lobes!
How to stretch your Piercings:
When on your stretching journey patience is a virtue!
The longer you wait in-between stretching your newly loved piercing the better the results!
Below is an approximate timeline you can follow for soft tissue such as earlobes. Remember when in doubt, wait longer.
The following is the approximate time needed to wait in-between stretching softer tissue:
Fresh Piercing 6+ months 14g-12g 1+ month 12g-10g 1.5+ months 10g-8g 2+ months 8g-6g 3+ months 6g-4g 3+ month 4g-2g 3+ months 2g-7mm(1g) 4+ months 7mm-8mm(0g) 4+ months 8mm(0g)-9mm(00g) 4+ months 9mm(00g)-10mm(00g) 4+ months
When it comes to piercings located in cartilage and or other thicker tissues it is recommended to at least double the table above. To reiterate these are just general approximations. It is important to note that some people may need to go slower. It can be VERY hard to tell if you are going too fast sometimes. Stretching is not a race. The question should never be "How fast can I go?" But rather: "How slow should I go to avoid doing any damage."
Everyone’s body is different, the same goes for various locations of the body and stretching them. The smaller the increase in size the safer the stretch will be. You should never stretch more than 1mm at a time especially since it’s become quite easy to acquire glass plugs in 1.0mm and even 0.5mm increments. You can find incremental jewelry sizes here:

• Gorilla Glass .5mm Plugs
• Nirvana Glass .5mm Plugs
• Arctic Buffalo Glass 1mm Plugs
  -Dead Stretching is the process of using single-flare plugs of proper material and simply inserting it into the piercing at a slightly larger size than currently worn once the fresh piercing or previously stretched area is healed fully. You will see a slight gap between your skin and the jewelry when pulled lightly downward. At smaller sizes this may be less noticeable but indicates you are ready for the next size. Dead stretching should not be done with double-flared plugs as the flare is usually another 1-2mm wider in diameter than the size you are ordering. If you ever feel tingling sensations, burning, pain, or any other sensation after stretching, downsize immediately. -Taping is the process of using of using PTFE tape to gradually go up in size over time. Bondage tape is also used but is not always recommended due to it being almost two times as thick and over twice as wide. With this method you would start using this at larger sizes 0g(8mm)+ when you are healed from your last stretch and you start to have a small gap that won’t stretch up to the next size. You would wrap it around your jewelry about two times, lubricate your ears and insert the jewelry. You would then wait for the stretch to heal and proceed to the next available jewelry size. This method though not as safe as dead stretching is sometimes needed, that being said, the taping method can be more of a pain as you should be changing the tape daily to keep it clean which means removing the tape and rewrapping. To make this easier you could use a decent quality caliper to check the size of the jewelry with the tape after wrapping. Taping should be used as a last resort of sorts for people who have waited the appropriate amount of time but still can’t get to that next size. It is also used to help facilitate the stretching of cartilage in even smaller increments than 0.5mm. If you ever feel tingling sensations, burning, pain, or any other sensation after stretching, downsize immediately. -Weights are an addition or replacement of a heavier piece(s) of jewelry that can be used in numerous ways. Weights should always be avoided with new and freshly stretched piercings. Lighter weight can be used to help facilitate stretching in the form of stone plugs or even the addition of Captive Bead or Seamless Rings into sturdy tunnels. These small increments of weight can help get you to that next little step but it is important when using hanging weights to really keep track of how much they weigh. For example, a Rose Quartz 25mm double-flare plug weighs about 18grams, a 0g 5/8”steel captive bead ring weighs about 31grams, hanging weights can be found at about 6-50grams but knowing this also consider that instead of the weight being distributed more so properly like when we wear our plugs, hanging weights will be constantly pulling downward on the same spot of the ear which can lead to the thinning of the area and irritation this can still go for inserting heavier weights through tunnels. It’s important when considering hanging weights to use them temporarily, about 2-4 hours a day. Even heavier stone and extra rings through tunnels should be used in moderation, any excess weight pulling on a specific area can cause thinning if you leave it in long enough. If you ever feel tingling sensations, burning, pain, or any other sensation after stretching, downsize immediately. -Tapers(traditionally) should realistically be considered an instrument rather than a piece of jewelry. Tapers can cause (and often do) severe damage before you realize what has happened and this also includes tapered jewelry. This includes pinchers, spirals and twist pieces alike. Due to the very gradual increase in size this makes it easier to insert larger jewelry before the area is ready causing blowouts, tears, swelling and possibly infection. It’s also important to not wear these types of jewelry to bed as they can get stuck in blankets and pillows! Using tapers to stretch is extremely discouraged in most scenarios though there are some exceptions, being cartilage and other tougher tissue areas(e.g., upper ear, septums, some genital areas). Even though this is the case and stretching these areas is quite different than the standard earlobe it is still recommended to go slow, use half sizes, and be aware of how these areas should feel when stretching. Like any other piercings you can still cause blowouts, tears, and infection. If this is a new journey for you, it is STRONGLY recommended to see a piercer to stretch these areas for you the first few times to figure out how it should be done and feel. If you ever feel tingling sensations, burning, pain, or any other sensation after stretching, downsize immediately.
  
• Proper Tapering set w/ in-between sizes
  
• Snap Plug Stretching Kit 4g-0g, 0g-1/2”
  

Snap-Plugs are a not mentioned very often now adays but are a safer alternative to tapers when/where they can be applied. These plugs snap together in small increments, more so than tapers. For example tapers in mm starting from 4g-0g would be 5, 5.5, 6, 7, 8mm with half sizes, whereas the snap-plugs from 4g-0g would consist of ten steps making it less likely for blowouts or tears when of course used properly.
Stretching Cartilage and Other Areas:
When considering stretching cartilage and other tougher areas it’s important to note that this is quite a different experience than stretching tissue like the standard earlobe. As mentioned above, healing and stretching time is about doubled when it comes these tougher areas whether it be septums, upper portions of the ear or even genital piercings like the apadravya. If you plan to stretch these areas you should consider how large you want to go with your stretching journey. If you only plan to go up a couple sizes from the initial piercing, stretching over time is definitely feasible where others who may want to go larger may consider a larger needle gauge or even get it done with a dermal/biopsy punch, area dependent. When it comes to these piercings it’s always recommended when stretching to see your piercer to make sure this is done properly even if only to get a feeling of how it is supposed to go. Stretching these areas even when going about it properly you can and usually will experience some slight pain and thereafter, redness along with tenderness in the area. Just the same, stretching these areas should never involve bleeding, swelling, consistent sharp pain, and shouldn’t feel tender for more than a week or so depending on the person and location. Using tapers should be done slowly, and with respect. Most of you have at least witnessed what happens when ears blowout and the damage improper taper use can cause, adding that experience to cartilage or other tougher areas and you can see why we are so strict with how/when tapers should be used.
Gauge and Sizes:
Once you reach about 2g you should realistically ignore “gauge” sizes as well as fractions of an inch and focus on using millimeters (mm). You can get yourself a decent caliper to measure your jewelry diameter as well as its overall and wearable area to be sure youre receiving and ordering the correct products.

• Quality Digital Caliper

There is nothing worse than buying a new set of plugs or other body jewelry only to find out it doesn’t fit properly.
Remember: It's Not a Race! Be Safe!
* I do not claim to be a professional piercer nor do I work in the body modification industry. If you are a professional and there are any improvements which could be made to this guide, PLEASE message me!* *Some additions may be made to this guide in the future* *Special thanks to TribalMethods who made the original stretching guide we have built upon! It was a huge help to a plethora of people through the years and we know it was greatly appreciated*

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So a few days ago I was talking about how I'm sick and I was about to start a job, well I'm still sick and here's what the job wanted from me. 40 hours a week, 6 days with 6 hours, 1 day with 4 hours, I was weed eating a massive trench in a golf course, in the boiling sun, with no days off to rest. Now this may seem bad, but it gets worse. Yesterday he left me alone when I needed to learn and let me weed eat with one I've never used (it was a complicated one that needed a heat up) and was mad that I didn't get as far as he wanted but he didn't tell me where to go. Then this morning I asked for at least one day off cause I'm pretty sure it's mandatory for one day off on a full time schedule. And guess what, he didn't give me one and he got mad because I asked for one. I told him I don't think I could work without a day off cause I worked for a while yesterday and I was already sore, so no days off wouldn't be fun to deal with with constant sore arms. He told me to go the fuck home and not waste his time because "life will never be easy" and "he was working 40+ hours when he was 16" his job rn is mowing on a ride mower which he gets done in 10 minutes. So job hunt is back on. (I live in a very humid ass state so it feels 10-20 degrees hotter than it is)

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So - on a Nomad Facebook group I was asking a question and then this lovely lady from Norway replied after a few comments we moved to the private chat and later on she talked about how 11 years ago she started a business that helps other people to have remote freedom and how using now AI tools can help progress and build a business out of it, so for myself as someone who's just starting and wants to be a freelancer (but still not fully confident with my programming skills) I said that I'm looking forward to hearing about it, and if her business can help me with my goals why not, right?
well, we had a Zoom meeting today to explain what she's doing and in the first 10 min I realised it's probably a waste of time. I mean, the fact it took her over an hour to get to the point of what they're doing instead of just telling me was so annoying as I came in really excited to hear what she had to say. So glad I didn't give her my email address but really annoyed she wasted too much of my time and honestly she seemed like such a lovely person and I'm truly disappointed of her.
I'm happy I'm aware enough to feel its an MLM, and I won't be Joining this shit.

I (24m) have been with my gf (23f) for 5 months now. You all already heard this story before, I met her and we clicked instantly. We are both in the same career field, have many things in common, and a lot of similar interests. We started dating after 2 weeks and we moved in together after 3 months. We love each other deeply and I truly feel like she could be the one. Before I go on my rant I want to disclose that the positives she brings to the table severely outweigh the negatives. She does so much for me that I cannot even begin to express how grateful and appreciative I am of her. She shows me everyday through her actions that she loves me. I could go on for hours about this.
Getting right into it, she has a extensive past with other men. A lot of causal hookups, especially with guys that she works with. Some early red flags I found were her having many guy friends, going on one-on-one “dates” with these guys, still speaking to some of the guys that she has hooked up with, going out to the clubs a lot, not posting me on social media, and getting so drunk that she can’t “control herself” and doesn’t remember half the night. She has since compromised on all these things and we are very open with each other now. However, it took me finding out that she still talks to these guys she has slept with and piecing things together to then call her out and get her to realize that this is all single behavior. But we both set healthy boundaries and things are fine. I am no angel either.
A while ago she disclosed that she “emotionally cheated” on one of her old boyfriends by going on lunch dates and spending a lot of time with another guy she worked with behind his back. She eventually broke up with her old boyfriend and started dating the guy she worked with. I got upset because although I know people can change, I am a firm believer of past behavior influencing future behavior. And once a cheater, always a cheater. She had a hard time understanding this so I broke it down for her. I don’t like her having a lot of guy friend because I know how they are, most of them only are nice to you because they want to sleep with you. I don’t like her going on one-on-one dates with these guys because it can lead to other things, like it did in her past with her old boyfriend. I don’t like her dressing revealingly and going to clubs without me because they are filled with horny men trying to get you drunk so they can take you home. Plus she already disclosed how she has hooked up with someone at her work from going out to the club. I don’t like her getting that drunk because I have seen in person my gf getting this drunk and start feeling up on other girls while I’m there next to her. So I don’t even want to know what she would do if I wasn’t there to stop her. And I felt that not posting me on social media was a red flag especially because guys from her work are constantly following her and messaging her, plus she used to post her old boyfriend all the time. After this long talk, she claimed to understand and we moved on.
Recently I went through one of her old journals and found an entry that made me sick to my stomach. I know I should not have gone through her stuff and she even told me not to but I felt so compelled. As of now we have full access to each others phones but before we came to that agreement, I caught her going through mine. This doesn’t justify my actions but I thought screw it since she did it to me first. Most of the entries were harmless and it was just her venting about her ex’s. But one really disturbed me. She stated that things weren’t going well with her boyfriend (we’ll call Mat). Mat was the one she was going on lunch dates with behind her old boyfriend’s back. She said that Mat was stressed bc he felt that he had to keep her a secret and that she was stressed bc he was telling a lot of people at their work. This led to my gf losing a unknown type of relationship with someone we’ll call Jon (who she also works with). She stated Jon was not good for her bc he could be her father but she doesn’t care. She asked “The Lord” to please bring him back into her life the exact same way they used to be (unknown). She said please let me at least fuck him once, or allow Jon to be her constant sex buddy. She ended the entry asking God to give her the strength to breakup with Mat and/or lie really well to get Jon. This made me sick as my gf is a religious person and is asking God to help her cheat on her old boyfriend and lie behind his back. This entry was 6 months before we met so not a lot of time has gone by. I don’t know what to do now. Yeah it’s in the past, but all this happened not too long ago. How much could she have possibly changed in this time frame?
She is actively trying to leave her job and claims she hates the people she works with. We have been arguing about stupid things a lot recently but we are always able to talk through them. It just makes me wonder what she could be doing behind my back if she went behind now 2 of her previous boyfriend’s backs. She has never given me a reason to not trust her in the present and I have never suspected her of cheating. I’m in a tough spot. The love is there but her past is so rocky it’s hard to see past. Need help.

Please do not repost, this is not a throwaway account.
There is a long history of JNMIL problems that would take me days to post about, but this is a recent realization I came to, and I have to tell someone or else I’ll go crazy.
When I was pregnant with my first child, I walked in to hear my JNMIL telling a close family friend (we’ll call her Elise) that she wished that Elise had married my husband, because then she would be having my husbands baby instead of me. This came as a shock as I had never had a problem with MIL up until this point.
A few weeks later we decided to take a family trip to Universal Studios. It was my childhood dream to go, and we had planned the trip before we found out I was pregnant, but I still went and tried to have a good time even without being able to ride anything. We took the entire family (as well as a couple of my family members) as we were about to move across the country, and wanted to spend time with the family.
JNMIL/SIL made this trip absolute hell. Accused me of bullying my nephew (after I spent $600+ on a special experience for him on the trip, just because I wanted to. I love him.) Told me that my baby wasn’t special, told me it was selfish to invite my 2 family members (instead of just the 14 from his side) and made me sob for hours at a time at what should have been a very happy trip for me.
I have always wondered what gave them the impression that I didn’t like nephew, and have wracked my brain for SEVEN YEARS trying to figure it out. (Nephew is a teen now and loves me and has never said anything mean or bad to me)
Well I recently found out that when I first married with my husband, SIL told the entire family not to bother meeting me because I was a phase, and that my husband would realize and leave me for Elise when he did.
I also recently found out that one big reason my husband broke up with his ex was because she was mean to nephew.
My deductive reasoning tells me that she thought my husband would leave me if he thought I was bullying nephew. It also tells me that she knew the stress she was causing me and the baby. And at the least, didn’t care. But I just have this gut feeling that she hoped I would miscarry so he could leave me. (Not that he would, she’s delusional)
She made comments about how we were not ready for a baby (even though we were happily married for a couple of years before trying, and got pregnant intentionally, and she herself had nephew on purpose at 15.)
I have always wondered why she made such a fuss over us “not being ready” when she herself had nephew a good 8 years younger than I was when I had my daughter, and was unmarried at the time.
Now I know it’s because she thought I was just a phase, and a baby messed with her master “hook up plan” to get my husband with Elise.
My husband has grown the most beautiful spine for his mother, but SIL is a blind spot and I have no idea how to even approach him about this, as we do visit BIL/SIL quite a bit, because his brother is his best friend.
I am not close with SIL (she has let me know throughout the years that she does not agree with our lifestyle (where we live, how we split household responsibilities, me being the breadwinner, etc) but we are cordial and stick to an information diet when around her. This has worked for almost 9 years, but I can’t stand to look at her now, knowing what I know.
Is this worth bringing up to my husband? How do I get past this? Am I overreacting?
ETA: My husband and Elise never dated. They’re not close at all. He does not even have her phone number. This is just a delusional plan that MIL/SIL concocted when my husband was a kid, and couldn’t let go of.

So yesterday my dog tripped me and left me with pretty bad injuries on my upper thigh (near my hip),my knee, and my ankle it hurts to move around and I can’t put too much weight on it or it hurts,I can’t bend my knee a lot so I’ve been sitting down a lot
Today my mom wanted to move a coat tree that was given to us by a family member that we thought was a good person until we found out they did terribly things to my mom and gave her disability level PTSD
She asked me a few hours ago if I’d help my dad move it and I said “I don’t know if I can with my leg but I’ll try” then e few minutes ago she asked again “could you help your dad move the coat tree” I said again “I don’t know if I can b-“ she cut me off yelling across the house “COULD SOMEBODY HELP YOUR FATHER” I was startled and a little panicked because i didn’t expect her to respond that way and I have been yelled at by her ALL day so I replied back a little loudly “I literally just said I don’t now if I can Physically do it”
Then she yelled “GET IN HERE NOW” I walk over to the kitchen tears already starting to well in my eyes “WHY CANT YOU JUST HELP YOUR FATHER??” I replied trying not to yell back as I was already very overwhelmed with the day
“All I said was i dont know if I can do it with my leg not working properly” she got angry and said “YOU SAID YOU WOULD TRY TO HELP YOUR FATHER AND THEN YOU A PERFECTLY NORMAL PERSON THATS FULLY CAPABLE FOR DOING IT AND YOUR BROTHER WHO IS ALSO A PERFECTLY NORMAL PERSON” I mean I get it my brother was being a D and was fully capable and said He couldn’t and that would have made me angry too
But taking it out on me won’t help “I am literally not a perfect person I don’t know if I can physically do it” I said I was trying to defuse the situation “WELL YOU MACHED MY ENERGY YOU CANT DO THAT WHEN SOMEBODY IS BEING A DICK TO YOU” she said very frequently
I didn’t reply but she said “WHY DO YOU SAY TO ME YOULL TRU BUT AS SOON AS DAD ASKS YOU SAY NO” I yelled back at her “I SAID THE SAME AS LAST TIME YOU ASKED I DONT KNOW IF I CAN WITH MY LEG BUT ILL TRY YOU JUST CUT ME OF HOW IS ME DOING THE SAME THING AS BEFORE SO BAD” she screamed back at me “BECAUSE YOUR BROTHER SAID HE COULDBNT” I yelled back “HOW IS THAT MY PROBLEM IM NOT HIM SO MAYBE YELL AT HIM AND NOT ME” we both stopped screaming but my dad jumped in and said “you yelled then your mom yelled then you yelled back and forth that’s what’s happening that’s why the situation was so elevated” I walked away
He as taking my moms side of course and then said it was both of our faults but I was unsure if I could physically move it and then she yelled so I don’t think I’m in the wrong but everybody else seems to think that I am
She talked to me a few minutes later as if nothing happened
AITA I feel like I am but also don’t?

Like an oiled, well-run clockwork, she was there behind her front bar; one of the only recurrent things in his life. Younger by a few years too much to not justify this shrouded interest, aside from the detective's other woes he never cared nor had the time to worry about anymore. Nevertheless, Alec indulged, sat on the stool as innate as an hour hand moves half an inch after 60 minutes.
"Doctor. Hi."
A running joke direly accumulated from frequent visits. Brooke said their conversations reminded her of therapy. He wasn't sure how to interpret that.
Grunting in response, Alec removed the hat off his head before leaning forward, seeking to hear her voice better. It was too distractingly serene. "Busy night?"
"Only in passing. Remember, this is just a diner that serves drinks. No food. You can imagine how broad of a target audience I have."
"I got an idea."
Every night, like clockwork. She wiped the counter and talked about some book she finished recently. He went through a glass of Irish Coffee for about three hours, right on the edge of dusk. Each time, like clockwork, Alec walked her home without so much of a doubt of his company being welcome, nor a prospect of an invite. He never will.
(But he yearned; the press of a mattress scented with her skin, sounds narrowly gleaned underneath desperation and so, so much guilt.)
Brooke mentioned once that she had trouble with eye contact. "You ever been married, Doctor?"
"Can't say I have. It never felt right."
"Me neither. My previous husband told me the brunt of the problems' were on my side of the equation. One decade down the drain." Her bittersweet smile tugged on her lips, and Alec looked away. "Perhaps I was just unlucky."
"Marriage appear to be reserved for other people instead."
She didn't respond. The detective shifted his weight uneasily, expression becoming strained. "That isn't to say I'm not impartial in most things."
They arrived at her doorstep. Alec faced the opposite street, inspecting the surrounding perimeter. Feet shuffling. Keys taken out of a pocket. A lingering pause that raised the hairs on the back of his neck. "Thank you." She hadn't turned the lock as of yet, seemingly wanting to say more. For a moment, silence prevailed, raising hackles left and right.
"Maybe...someone could sway your opinion, Doctor, if you'd let it happen." Brooke stepped inside. "Well, I'll be waiting at the bar, as usual. See you then."
Like clockwork, she would thank him before locking the door, effectively shutting him out until they meet again later. She would provide the distance which allowed him to properly gather his thoughts in a more appropriate subject after a dream-like state.
(Golden band flickering against sunlight as her hair did. The simmer of ocean, grains of sand between crevices.)
Though this time might be different, and the detective won't be able to sleep it off.
(Pure, genuine bliss.)
-
Someone clearing their throat woke Alec abruptly. He raised his head from the desk to acknowledge the visitor, drowsy after hours of drinking. "Good morning..."
"Morning, detective. I heard you're the kind of man to inquire about pending affairs."
Given the impression he displayed for himself, Alec's potential client raised her brow, assessing him with an unseen checklist. So far, it seemed he was failing to meet standards.
"No secretary to greet for you?"
"Line of work. Couldn't ask some poor girl to die in my lobby now, can I?" He squinted at the ghostly woman who hovered over his shelves, peering into stacks of files. "How'd you come to know my services?"
"Pulled major strings. Had to give up a part of my space. I'm told it'd be worthwhile."
The detective straightened. Took a cigarette sitting on his ashtray and lit a match. "They aren't rumors passed by word of mouth. I strive to finish cases I've taken up."
She wore a striking pale green dress with a subtle slit on the side, showing off white, porcelain skin. Her hair became light reflecting on the bark of oak, long and slick on her bare shoulders. There was a weary manner about her tone, bleeding into her whole demeanor.
When she stared into his eyes, Alec couldn't help but be reminded of someone else. "Good. I need your help. My sister was murdered, and I want to know the son of a bitch who did this."
A/N: a little something i cooked up. there's still a lot i had planned for this prompt, but i think i'll leave it here for now. had a lot of fun conceptualizing lol.

What To Do June 2-4
I’m no u/ItsMeDebie -- just stepping in this week to help out

• Don’t miss the Festival of the Arts Friday through Sunday this weekend; I’m already daydreaming about souvlaki
• If you need more art, you can check out the Kalamazoo Institute of Arts Fair Friday or Saturday
• The Grand Rapids Lantern Festival is still going on at John Ball Zoo--only a week left
• John Ball Zoo is also holding the Summer Spectacular Friday through Sunday with live music, animal activities, and specialty food for that festival feel

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FRIDAY

• June 2nd is National Donut Day; celebrate with a donut or four from your favorite shop or try someplace new from this ExperienceGR list
• Books and Mortar is open late with select books 30% off for First Fridays in East Hills. Other businesses have surprises and specials too. Participating businesses include: Brewery Vivant, Furniture City Creamery, The Green Well, Le Bon Macaron, Less Traveled, Commune, Global Infusion, and Nestology

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SATURDAY

• Yoga at The Highlands (Blandford Nature Center): Start your morning off with an outdoor yoga class by instructors from Mindful School of Yoga
• Take a class on Herbal Tea Gardening at Blandford Nature Center; pre-registration is required and open till 12pm Friday
• Blacksmith 101 at Blandford Nature Center; this is a four hour workshop including forge safety, tools, and fire building. Pre-registration is required and open till 12pm Friday
• There’s a huge multi-family yard sale happening in Heritage Hill on Saturday
• The 55th Annual Dyer-Ives Poetry Competition Reception is on June 3rd; enjoy poems read aloud by winners in each category
• Popular Pages Book Club is discussing “When We Rise” by Cleve Jones on June 3rd at the Main Library
• Dirty Donny Pop Up Art Bash at The Pyramid Scheme: A night of pinball, radical artwork, and high energy rock ‘n’ roll featuring legendary monster rockers ELECTRIC FRANKENSTEIN and rumors of free pizza

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SUNDAY

• Behind the Exhibit: Overcoming Hateful Things - Stories from the Jim Crow Museum of Racist Imagery with Dr. David Pilgrim; the exhibit opens at the GR Public Museum on Saturday, June 3rd

Hello everyone, my name is Light and I am a light worker, a tarot/oracle reader, and medium. I have years of experience, and recently, I wanted to start an official page for readings so I can help people. I prefer to use tarot cards and oracle cards mostly in my divination, and have had great success in giving people new insight into their situations. You can read my reviews here from real people that I have helped.
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Need a service here but don't see it listed? Shoot me a message and I can see if I can help you out. If I'm not the person, I am more than happy to point you in the direction of another reader.
To book a reading with me, send me a message via Reddit DMs. I am happy to also do readings via other platforms.
The fees/prices for these readings are set, but I am more than happy to negotiate with you. I want to ensure that you get your moneys worth, and it is more important to me that I am able to give help and comfort to those who need it. If you don't resonate with my readings, I'm more than happy to be accommodating in terms of that as well.
Thank you for reading, and checking out my page!

Hello everyone, my name is Light and I am a light worker, a tarot/oracle reader, and medium. I have years of experience, and recently, I wanted to start an official page for readings so I can help people. I prefer to use tarot cards and oracle cards mostly in my divination, and have had great success in giving people new insight into their situations. You can read my reviews here from real people that I have helped.
Here are the services that I offer:

1. 2 Hour Readings
2. 1 Hour Readings
3. 3 Card Spreads
4. 1 Card Pull

Need a service here but don't see it listed? Shoot me a message and I can see if I can help you out. If I'm not the person, I am more than happy to point you in the direction of another reader.
To book a reading with me, send me a message via Reddit DMs. I am happy to also do readings via other platforms.
The fees/prices for these readings are set, but I am more than happy to negotiate with you. I want to ensure that you get your moneys worth, and it is more important to me that I am able to give help and comfort to those who need it. If you don't resonate with my readings, I'm more than happy to be accommodating in terms of that as well.
Thank you for reading, and checking out my page!

Hi everyone! Just wondering if anyone has any experience with having two bi coloured angels. I currently have one in a 90g with a cherub angel as well. When I added the cherub there was some chasing involved but that calmed down in a few hours. Neither angels are full grown yet and the 180g is 8ft long. The bi coloured is my favourite fish so I’m hoping if I got a second and added them at the same time to the 180 they would each find respective territory. Anyone have any experience with this?

So this is going to be long as I feel it's always important to share the full background of our relationship and what we have been through together.
Me (39/f) and my wife (35/f) have been together for 16 years, married for nearly 10. We are an interracial couple as well, her mom (her dad was probably okay with us but just went along with mom) never liked me because I'm white (among other issues) and always threatened to disown my wife if she stayed with me. Eventually we got married though (her parents didn't come to the wedding) and over time her mom seems to tolerate me now.
After my wife's dad passed away suddenly in 2013 (two months after we got married - her mom told her it was her fault, that the stress she caused them by marrying me gave her dad a heart attack; of course that's not true though!), my wife went through an existential crisis and then told me she wanted to transition (she was presenting male at that point). She told me early on when we were dating that she liked to cross dress and I had asked her how deep it went, did she think she was transgender, etc. and she told me at that time that she had previously thought about it, but was okay living life as a boy. What she didn't share at that time though was that she was okay with it because she thought when she'd die that she'd be a girl in heaven because you can be anything you want in heaven. So when her dad died, she faced her own mortality (this was the first person she ever lost in life, so that's a really heavy one as a first 😞) and started questioning what if there's no heaven, etc and decided she better transition so she can live without any regrets. This all came out in early summer 2014 after months of her pulling away from me, suddenly telling me sex was disgusting (after having been very sexual previously), a switch was flipped, and she no longer wanted to have sex ever again. I had no clue what was happening and she kept refusing therapy, etc and I finally broke down one night and asked if she wanted to divorce and she said no, so then I asked WTF was going on and THEN she told me she had been thinking about transitioning for months.
Unfortunately I had a horrible knee jerk reaction from the shock and dealing with the previous other stuff on top of it and said we'd divorce if she did that. 😓 It was really hard on me for a while, and I was still trying to figure it all out, while she was going full speed ahead because she had been thinking about it for months, while it was still new info to me. So essentially I eventually finally stopped thinking "I don't want to be with a woman", and started thinking "can I be with her?" And my mind shifted and when I told her I wanted to stay, but then she told me she wanted to separate and didn't think she felt the same way about me anymore. She essentially pushed me away again because as she later explained it to me, she was already accepting it was over before. We separated, she was staying with her brother temporarily and I moved out of the apartment the day before our first wedding anniversary. We had everything separated and the only thing left to do was make it legal, so when I told her to start looking for a mediator, she asked if we could hold off so she could figure out what she really wanted. 😓 Of course that made me angry. So to wrap up this part of the story, eventually she agreed to do couples counseling, we worked things out, she explained that she got turned off by sex because she knew I only saw her as a man at the time (before I even knew she wanted to transition) and we got back together. I moved back in with her in early 2015, even had a second wedding and renewed our vows in 2018. So essentially ever since early 2015, things have been great. Very happy, no conflict between us at all. Not even during covid.
Then last year she told me she was was suddenly thinking about death again. It was keeping her up at night and consuming her. I have since found out that it actually started in 2020, but she didn't say anything to me about it until last year! She told me she didn't tell me because she didn't want to drag me down with her. I encouraged her to go back to therapy and she did. She started reading books about Buddhism and Taoism too. Then out of no where, in early March, she asked to talk and said she thinks she's bisexual and polyamorous now and then said she wanted to explore this with her two best friends. 😩 My heart immediately shattered. She sees these friends a lot, in fact they're really the only two friends she sees. She told me she has no idea if they even return her feelings or if their even interested in poly relationships at all. They're both cis hetero men and they know she's trans. She also works with one of them. She actually worked with both of them, that's how she met them, but the friend she feels closest to just left the company a few months ago. She said she also knows it's a risk she might lose them as friends too, but just feels like she has to try. I asked her if she'd actively seek other partners if they turned her down and she said no.
This all came out while she's been dealing with her extreme fear of death. She's recently started seeing a new therapist for possible existential OCD. She and I both believe she has ADHD as well, symptoms definitely add up now that I've heard from friends/read more about it, but she hasn't sought to get an actual diagnosis yet. But essentially she told me, she was feeling this void in life (but I guess if you're so consumed by fear of death that it's likely you might feel a void in life?) and now all her views on life has changed - she no longer sees the world as black and white, she has let go of all boundaries and barriers and has let go of all attachments (this seems to be a Buddhism thing?). Her purpose now is to spread joy to people and make sure the people she loves are happy and fulfilled. She basically said she thought about a Chinese drama show she watched as a kid that involved a man having multiple wives, and a love and sex class in college that discused poly - why do we even have rules in life, etc and that "poly isn't bad" and "love isn't a bad thing". Her previous therapist asked her if she had anyone in mind to explore this with, she said she didn't. So then she intentionally thought who would she even explore this with (before saying anything to me), and then landed on these two friends because she "doesn't know anyone else". And then suddenly, poof she has romantic feelings for them? 😵‍💫 She has such strong feelings that exploring polyamory was the solution to her void, her focus is all on deepening connections with people now (except for me I guess?).
Essentially I'm 100% not okay with this and very monogamous and I've made it clear that if she HAS to explore this, we will have to divorce because I'll be miserable. I'm absolutely devastated after everything we've been through together and marrying twice, but I know I can't force her to stay either and she certainly can't force me to be okay with polyamory. She agreed to stop talking to these two friends while we tried to figure everything out so she hasn't even spoken to them since late March. She can't even say if she still has feelings for them right now since "she hasn't spoken to them for a while". She has been saying she wants to stay together, but because she had such strong feelings about this when she landed on it in her head, she's worried it'll resurface in the future. I just feel like there's multiple things going on and I had asked her weeks ago, what is her concern about not getting to explore polyamory and she literally said "it comes back to my issue with death". She's apparently accepted she's going to die, it's inevitable, but she's atheist now and believes there's nothing after death so if there's no memories or anything, then it's about what can she do with the one life she has to live? She said she wants to be able to experience and do everything she thinks she wants to try so she can look back on her life on her deathbed and say "at least I tried everything". This all comes across as a coping mechanism to me. 😞 But maybe I'm wrong and just in denial? Our couples counselor asked her if she feels stifled in our marriage and she said no. She confirmed she's 100% happy with me, there's nothing missing in our relationship, and there's nothing I need to do better, I do everything great. I just can't understand the mindset to throw away something you're 100% happy with, just to try something else. She even admitted she knows it might not work out, she may lose her friends, polyamory may not be what she thinks it is, but she just feels like she needs to TRY since she's so fixated on how she'll feel on her death bed in the future - and not trying something in her mind means she'll have regret at the end of her life and she wants to avoid that at all costs.
I know she doesn't want to lose me and says she wants to stay, but it's really hard for me to try to rebuild trust and she said she's lost faith in herself to commit again because of what's happened, she's worried she could be fine for another 5, 10+ years and then suddenly it might resurface that she has to explore poly.
Btw, she also did barely any research about polyamory before deciding she wanted to explore it and told me about it. So her decision/action was all based on what she's imagined in her head. It comes across as a coping mechanism to me about her issue with death and trying to make it "okay", but maybe I'm in denial? I'm 2014 she had started to drink and even tried vaping (she never smoked before) to try to cope with her discomfort. When I asked her to separate, I reminded her of that she asked if she has even considered this might be a coping mechanism and she said "maybe..." so I just told her she should probably explore that in therapy then.
She also told me that in order for her to consider other romantic relationships, it MUST be a deep connection in friendship first before she would try to make it romantic (but that's not even how we got together). So that just seemed odd to me, because if you start off platonic for a while anyway, there's no guarantee the other person will just magically develop feelings? And like you're going to intentionally try to make friends with poly people and tell them it needs to be platonic until she feels a deep connection, then she might consider making it romantic? 😵‍💫
So on Sunday night, I just told her I can't do this anymore. I can't sit here being lovey-dovey, saying I love you, making travel plans in the future like everything is fine. I told her I feel like I'm sitting here watching her stand in a doorway with one foot in and one foot out of our marriage and that she could leave at any moment. She's paralyzed, doesn't want to lose me because she IS very happy with me, but can't let go of the idea of exploring polyamory because then she's worried how she'll feel on her death bed the she didn't try it.
Btw, I don't think poly is inherently bad/wrong, it's just not something I want and my needs won't be met in the relationship. I even told her she may realize HER needs may no longer be met in the poly dynamic. I told her that our relationship is pretty conflict free (outside her existential crisises) and I don't want to throw a wrench into that by inviting possible conflict from her other relationships and how that could impact ours. It just seems too risky and I don't to deal with it. I've also spoken with poly friends on social media who have also gone through really horrible experiences, and I even met a woman last night who is going through divorce because she and her husband opened their relationship and it went horribly, her husband lied/cheated and now they're divorcing. She was the one who was curious about it too and said she's never doing it again.
Anyway, that's my story. I'm trying to focus on me now, in therapy and trying to deal with all the trauma. Trying to make new friends and fill up my time so I'm not sitting at home dwelling on it. It's definitely really hard to just move forward without the person I've been with for 16 years though and thought we'd be together forever, especially after everything we went through before. But while it's hard to imagine a future without her, it's also hard to imagine a future with her like this. 😞💔 Just trying to take it one day at a time right now. I'm going to go visit my aunt for a week on Saturday, so I'm looking forward to that.
Sending support and sympathy to everyone going through this. 💖

Last summer, we had an associate move up to a key holder position. Once she acquired this position, she immediately began abusing her power. She stays over when we don’t have enough hours (without telling anyone) and other peoples hours get cut drastically. During the past two SAS sales, she has become very hostile to work with but when the sale concludes she is perfectly fine. All of the key holders are wonderful at my store, as well as this one EXCEPT when it is SAS or a big sale. During summer SAS last year, I left every single shift bawling my eyes out due to the unfair treatment and harsh words thrown around. I was to the point where I almost said something to one of our store managers about it and then her behavior was completely changed the next day so I decided against it. There have been multiple people that have either left or threatened to leave if something isn’t corrected with her behavior. She lacks professionalism in almost every situation possible and is beginning to act hostile again. Should I bring this up to a manager (I don’t feel comfortable directly discussing this with the key holder)?

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