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10 years ago, I was severely beaten and choked until I was unconscious by my boyfriend. When I gained consciousness, I made it to the hospital and learned he had broken two of my fingers. I was devastated. I thought about suicide. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I felt sorry for him.
I kept saying, I must have done something horrible for him to beat me. In reality, I just told him, I wanted to break up.
While I was in the hospital, several detectives came back to discuss pressing charges. I pressed charges and he was arrested immediately. His family reached out to me and asked for me to drop the charges. They were so kind and loving.
I came to court and told the judge, I wanted to drop the charge. She initially refused saying- he choked me until I passed out and he only stopped because he thought I was dead. I still dropped the charges. Immediately afterwards, his family called me a slut who had ruined his life.
My family didn’t support me. They said I should just forget it. I couldn’t just forget. After my cast was off, I had to go to physical therapy to learn to use my hand and write again. I tried to block the incident and the person out of my mind. I moved to another state. I was fine or I thought.
Several weeks ago, my father died and I returned to my home state. I am outside of the funeral home and the person walks over to me. He says, “ I am here, if you need me.” I have never been so scared in my life. When my family goes to the repast, he is there. He is constantly talking and walking near me. I am so afraid that I can’t talk.
Last week, I saw him at a party. I could feel him watching me but I figured because there were so many people that he wouldn’t talk to me again. When he is super drunk, he comes over to me and says, “ the reason why we got into it was you would never listen, 10 years ago. We need to talk.”
I leave with him. I honestly thought maybe he would apologize or express remorse. I always fantasized that he would give some grand apology and grand gesture of love and I could forgive him.
He tells me I am a slut who made up lies that ruined his life. He says he never hurt me or broke my fingers or choked me. When I tried to say something, he said “ shut up” and I did. He says, “ tell me what I did to you” but I couldn’t say anything.
I hated myself for what I said next - I wish we could be friends. I wish you could forgive me.
He says, “ I have to tell everyone I lied about him attacking me. He says I have to write a letter saying he never did anything to me. I said no. He says, “ I have given women black eyes but I never blacked your eye. I didn’t hurt you and you know it.”
Now, a week later, I am struggling. I know he did abuse me but I don’t know. I think I am crazy. I am starting to question what happened to me. I know my fingers were broken. I am losing my grip on the reality of what happened to me.
I went to Domestic Violence court to read my case file. The file was gone because he was able to get it expunged years ago. I don’t know what to do. I thought I had forgiven him but I hate him. I hate he was able to get the case file deleted. I hate he is now a rich, powerful, successful person while I am stuck with a crippled hand.

Hey guys:)
So, I just finished the story the other day and can now freely race and explore without worrying about qualifiers and such. And, after the final race and all, I've accumulated a bit over a million dollars.
Now, I'm interested in both the F1 (1,100,000$) and the Chiron (~3,600,000$). Problem is, it seems waaay too grindy to have to earn that much for the latter. Collecting around 3 million would take me about 30 sessions. And that's too much. As of now, I have the free time to do one or two sessions per day.😅
So, what do you guys think? Should I get the F1 and completely give up on the Bugatti (since I really don't see myself committing to collect that much money afterwards since it would be even more than before), or should I keep my head down and grind for the Bugatti and keep the one million for now?
To give you an idea of what I like in both cars:
Ironically, I don't love the Chiron. It doesn't look that great (unlike the Divo), but it is an AWD car, which really suits me considering the game's physics, and it is also clearly the fastest in terms of speed and acceleration. Chiron appears to have little possible customisation options too. I am also worried that the Chiron will, quite simply, render any other S+ car of mine obsolete. 😅 I know it sounds dumb and "why not use the other one too, what's stopping you?", but when a car is simply better and makes races far easier, I fear that I will give in and use the car that brings in money easier and helps me complete challenges. Oh, and now that I mentioned it, I haven't cleared out the map yet. I've only completed all drift zones and air jumps.
Now, about the F1, I love its design. I love anything and everything '90s styled and this car is basically the embodiment of that era's supercars. I generally don't even like super cars and hyper cars either, but this one is an exception, along a few Lamborghini models, but I digress. The cons: This car is RWD.. and I suck at driving any RWD cars in the recent NFS games (ironically, I prefer them in Forza while playing with all assists off lol) because they seem to randomly spin out just to remind you of their system. Or, like I said, I just suck. It is also not particularly better than other cars. I don't think the F1 will end up being better than my Polestar in S+ or my GTR and Murcielago in S class. The reason I want it is because, frankly, it looks beautiful. It also has lots of customisation options, which is why I play NFS in the first place.
As you can see, I'm not what you'd call a "car person". My criteria are mostly aesthetic, and those too are slightly unconventional. So, with this in mind, what would you recommend for someone like me? Also, if it's the F1, what engines should I use for the S and S+ classes?
Thank you for taking the time to read this unnecessarily lengthy post, and thank you in advance for your advice:)

I know this is obvious, but content warning on this post: I talk about a lot of diseases here and I don't want anyone to freak out if they have health anxiety for themselves or their pets.
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I had to say goodbye to my cat of 8 years. She was 16 years old, roughly, my wife and I got her from a shelter so we aren't sure. She was kept in the cages, seperate from other cats as she hadn't been acclimated yet. When they opened the cage she jumped into my wife's arms and started purring. We knew she was our cat at that very moment and that we would love her completely.
I really just want to chronicle my experience with her here, including all of her health issues because I need to validate myself for putting her through euthanasia.
This cat was an outstanding companion. She was the best companion I could ask for, and I was there for her through an enormous amount of health issues. Within a week of us adopting her from that shelter, she became very sick. Labored breathing, looking away from us, hiding as much as possible. She had an ear polyp that had grown so large it was hurting her greatly. The adoption center told us we could give her back and they would take care of her surgeries. We declined, told them we would keep her, and they told us they would pay for the main surgery. We took her to a multitude of appointments and a surgery center and helped her recover. She was great for a while. A few years, 2015 to 2019 everything was pretty golden with her and it was the best time of my life when I got to spend time with her.
In 2019 we received the worst possible news, she had mammary cancer on her left chain of breasts. They told us it had a high chance of mortality within a year, but that we could slow it down with surgery in case it hadn't spread to her lymphatic system yet. We opted to do the surgery and she came out on the other side doing wonderfully. We waited that year, upset as the date approached when it would be the 365th day. That came, and she was fine. Another year passed, and she was fine, or so we though--I felt more bumps, but on the other side of body. The cancer had infected her right mammary chain. We were worried about her surviving the surgery, as she was 14 and had already been through a few. Luckily she came out of it just fine, the recover was a bit rough but she was back to her old self within two weeks! Around this time we also found out she was deaf and most likely had been the entire time we had had her--haha! Everything, once again, was amazing for a while.
2021 hits and she has a massive eye ulcer. Her eye is clouded and bloodshot. The vets treat her for an eye ulcer as if it is bacterial for two weeks and it gets worse and worse. I take her to an emergency vet and they state she clearly as FHV and the infection is viral--it needs antivirals, not antibiotics. It clears but her eye is permanently damaged and she is probably 90% blind out of it.
2022 comes, and we notice some stuff changing in her--the vet lets us know she has kidney disease. It's relatively early, it'll probably give her another two years. I assume the cancer will get her before the kidney disease will, and just adjust the way I take care of her to fit her new disease.
Enter 2023, everything is still going well. She is slowing down a little bit day by day, sleeping more, probably up to about 20 hours a day by April. But she loves us, and she is so, so happy. Always purring, eating well, keeping herself hydrated despite her kidney disease progressing. May 28th hits, she's crying out at night and seems a little confused. I keep trying to bring her into bed but she gets down in really odd ways that aren't normal for her. I don't think too much of it. I wake up the next morning to my wife telling me that our girl was inconsolable last night and was crying out even when she picked her up to love on her. I go check her out and immediately notice something odd--she doesn't seem to see me. I walk around, wave my hand in front of her face, no registration. I pet her and she purrs. I get her to walk and she will walk-- into very odd areas of the house, into walls, into corners, trying to scout where she is. She's repeatedly trying to walk into walls on her right side. Her right side also has a bit of a limp to the back leg, it's constantly touching her front paw when she walks. She cries out and I go to her, she registers I'm there but wants to keep walking into things. We assume she is totally blind and are extremely unsettled as she is also known to be deaf. We go buy a laser point and she can see it! Three inches from her face, and only on her right side. So much so on her right that she won't register it if it's on her left at all--even if her right eye can see it. She doesn't register our other cat even though it is immediately to her left and she bumps into her, freaking my other cat out. We take her to the emergency vet and wait for hours. The vet comes out and gives us some mixture of terrible news, starting with some small things--She has an ear infection, she has periodontitis, she has a galloping heartbeat, and it's starting to get worse, she has a blood pressure reading of 250 even after letting her rest for a bit. Anything over 180 is hospitalization for a cat (and for people fyi). To top it all off, they tested her in an empty room and determined she had a great deal of mental deficiencies. She was "a-visual," or lacking vision, she would constantly try to turn into walls even when she knew they were there, and she seemed to not recognize her left side of her body as I had mentioned. They figured, without testing to confirm, that she probably had a stroke or a tumor so advanced that it had affected her brain function. They were leaning towards stroke. They wanted to keep her there overnight for further tests and then recommended hospitalization as it would be unsafe to bring her home given her blood pressure. My wife and I looked at eachother and had the same thought, as unsettling as it was. We asked the vet to step away while we discussed--euthanasia? Could we really subject her to further testing, staying in a hospital for who knows how long when chances were she wouldn't get better? And if she got better, if they lowered her blood pressure and got her stable for us to bring home, how much longer would she have lasted given that she also had advancing cancer and kidney disease? I was willing to go to any measures to make her comfortable due to the lack of vision, hearing, and lack of awareness of her left side. I can deal with that. But I can't deal with her sitting in a hospital for so long, so confused and scared why we aren't there, when the only way she can recognize us is through touch and smell and those things aren't there with her. We told the vet we wanted to euthanize, through heavy tears. The vet had never mentioned this option (I don't know if this is normal, I think maybe it is usually left to the owner to come up with the idea maybe?). But she told us we could euthanize there, that we would get a little room and as much time with her as we wanted. We went to the room, our baby was brought to us and of course she couldn't see us. But there she was, and we were able to bring her out and cuddle her. This is the worst part. She was there for us. She licked my wife, and layed in my lap, she seemed relatively normal and loving. I just can't wrap my head around it, she had so many things going wrong and here she was giving us love. This is the part that hurts me and makes me feel like I did something wrong. How could an animal that needs to be euthanized still be loving on us? With everything listed though and me being utterly terrified of her having to stay in a hospital and possibly dying there, we went through with it. I held her until the very end, knowing I was never going to be the same person.
I am devastated, lost, confused, and searching to figure out if I made the right decision. The thing is, given the information and the number of systems failing in her body, logically it should be. But to know she still had fight in her, love in her? Love for me? To end her like that, was it mercy? Should I have let her continue, with the chance that maybe I would get to have her back in my arms at home, with things being relatively normal for a little while longer? What if things got way, way worse, would I feel even more terrible about myself to have let her go too far and to have her in too much pain? I think so, but I don't know as I chose to "early" option, if it was early. I'm just at a loss without a pet that I loved as much as my very own child. She was my everything, my comfort after work, after a stressful event she was there for me and now she isn't, and I cannot process that.
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On a happier note, let me talk about her demeanor for a bit because that's what I loved about her! She was a deaf cat, an old cat, and a sickly cat as I listed above. This means that I was responsible for her well being much more than a normal animal. It was like taking care of an elderly parent, or a baby. Constantly monitoring her, helping her eat, go to the bathroom, waking up 10-15 times a night to collect her as she cried out for me. These things strengthened my bond with her enormously. She was such a sweet girl, always wanting in my lap or to lay beside me. If I laid in bed for one minute, or sat down for one minute, there she was! She had places she loved to sleep, including on the beanbag in my wife's office. She would sleep there for 6-8 hours at a time, and then come around the corner to the living room sniffling (she had FHV so constant sniffles and sneezing), and we'd greet her with such excitement. She would follow me everywhere when she was awake, never ever wanting to leave my side. She would lick me any time I pet her (and continue licking me until I stopped). She would bite my nose when I put my face up to her face, lovingly. She had stinky breath from the gum disease but I didn't care. She loved using a heating pad we had sitting on the ground for her all year round as it helped her joints. She just loved heat--she would constantly try to jump into the oven when I opened it, or shove herself into the air fryer. Sunlight was king in her eyes and she would find it and camp it all day. She was nothing but purrs and love--immense, intense love for me that I gave her in return. I miss her, I miss her more than I could ever fathom. My love for her was so incredibly deep that it scares me to think I may never get to feel that with a pet again.
Thank you for listening to me if you read this though I don't need anybody to, I just really needed to get this off my chest somewhere and to have a written record of my time with her somewhere besides my heart. I know a lot of is health concerns, a lot of it sounds negative, but the health issues I faced with her through the years were ways that I grew closer to her, and it is only the end that hurts me. The rest is history.

This may be long and rambling please bear with me.
So I was raised in a low-income household where my mother was the only one who worked, and my father was always in and out of jobs. For years, I couldn't even describe to my peers what he did when I was asked as kids always do and that is a point of shame for me to this day. We lived in a tiny house and had to cram ourselves in the small space and as years went on the lack of privacy (especially as a teen) felt horrible. My formative years were filled with feelings of guilt as being the last one I had it in my mind that my birth was somehow the reason our family became poor because this was implied by my mother many times when she would point out how they lost everything immediately I was born.
Being such a small space, we heard every single argument my parents had, and many times were dragged into them where it would be one of those "see what your other parent is acting". For as long as I remember my mother always felt the need to use us (the kids) as her emotional support, I was literally 6 years old when I was asking her to consider divorce and worried about her emotional wellbeing. We had to from a young age worry about money because she would sit us down and complain to us about how she didn't have any, how worried she was, and we've missed school because of lack of tuition many times over the years. All this was happening from when I was around 4 and I can't say I've gone a day in my life without ever worrying about money. I was diagnosed with clinical anxiety and complex PTSD and at the time all my mother could do was ask me "why?" and question me when I went to get a new dose. I have to add that these emotional dumps were only subjected to my sister and I. The favoritism with the boys has always been so evident and in many ways to this day she expects us to cater to them like; she does things like only remember their birthdays and text us to ask if we talked to them and wished them happy birthday, expect us to bring them food from the kitchen when they're around, make us call them for her when she hasn't spoken to them to get us to find out if they're okay...etc
My father in all this is absent because that's just who he was as a person. He has never taken responsibility for his role as a parent because any time we would do something like give him a reminder of bills, he would get agitated and tell us to not question his authority. I have zero emotional connection to him anymore because of some very traumatic situations he put us through when we were younger.
My current situation is that I still live at home, I contribute to some bills and buy food (I think it's worth noting in my culture this is common even past college years). I think for the longest time I've tried to convince myself that it wasn't that bad but there was incident last year that happened with my male sibling that my parents basically expected me to not react to him harassing me and threatening to beat me up and told me to be understanding of him and even got mad when I contacted the police because I feared for my life (story for another day). This I think was my breaking point of not being bothered by it all anymore and when I realized I will never get what I need from these people.
It sounds cringe and I know it's a worn-down internet lingo now but, I've been trying to heal my inner child from late last year and a lot of it has been coming to terms with my childhood wounds. It started last year after my mother forgot my birthday (she had remembered her son's and even sent them these long carefully curated texts) and then made me feel guilty for feeling bad that she didn't even try to get me anything and didn't even wish me a belated after the fact. I baked myself a cake and lit myself some candles for the fun of it. I made myself a nice dinner and called it a day. I decided that I was going to start my new year by taking care of myself and giving myself all the things, I have hoped over the years others would give me. She's always prided herself as someone who is low maintenance and when she sees me putting on a face mask or makeup, she constantly makes comments and digs about how I'm prideful and should just be "plain like her". I think she means this is jest but it's become difficult for me to separate the comments from my personal reasons for self-care and it feels like a personal attack to me. I've been doing small things like buying myself a casserole dish because I love oven meals and even a salad bowl because I'm getting into fitness. All these have been met with remarks of "I'm spending money unnecessarily". These things make me happy and that's all I want to be. I've tried buying her flowers to try and brighten up the room, but she basically told me that I should have given her the money I spent instead. I feel like I now have to hide stuff from her; purchase receipts, new items that I bought and even the food packaging when I order takeout.
I don't want to nor am I planning on giving up the things that make me happy, but I feel sad that after all these years, I seem to be constantly putting more effort to form a connection with her that she probably is interested. I'm honestly just emotionally drained and exhausted from everything and wish it wasn't this way as I have come to the understanding that maybe I actually have never fully experienced having parents that don't view you as a financial drain.
Maybe I'm just overly emotional and overreacting, I don't know, but I felt like I had to get that off my chest.
ETA: I'm planning to move out, but I don't feel mentally prepared to be in a space alone and I also feel guilty about leaving her.

When I first met for an interview I said I wanted to work 3 DAYS A WEEK (maybe 4) . Then once I started working they started scheduling me for 5 so then I talked to them and it was Brought down to 4 days. Finally I put my foot down about working 3 days a week especially since They hate when I request time off- Then today I get called over for a “talk” & the convo was beyond hostile. I actually said that- I said “I don’t like the vibe of this conversation it’s coming across very hostile” only when I started crying did he lighten up???? (Why does it take me crying for someone to be cordial? Weird AF) I have a kid and getting childcare has been a headache so I wanted to work days where I have a reliable person to watch her. He claimed he was only frustrated over me not wanting to work 4 days which I clarified as I was SO CONFUSED OVER WHY HE WAS SOOO FUCKING MAD????
I left work feeling so gross, like I didn’t stick up for myself more. I should’ve quit on the spot as the way I was talked to today was beyond vile. I’m reaching out to my old manager tomorrow to see if he could get me in a coupes days a week at my old job. We’ll see how that goes- wish me luck.

I was moving my monitor arm last night and unplugged, reinstalled a new monitor arm on my LG38GN950. Now, all of a sudden with the same DisplayPort cable it does not detect on my windows 10 PC at all. When I power it on and off, I get an audible sounds from windows recognizing something has been turned on, but all it says on screen is "no signal". I am running dual monitor setup on my 2080 ti, and tried swapping displayport cables along with power cycling and reinstalling nvidia drivers.
Nothing seems to work. What the hell is going on? Did I randomly brick my monitor just by installing a new monitor arm?
(additional question for you LG38GN950 owners - does your dispalyport cable "click" in when installed on the backplane of the monitor? Mine even inserted as far as possible does not "click" or engage. I cant remember if this was the case before I installed a new monitor arm)

I figured Id make this post to be helpful to others because I have seen a lot of threads/questions of people who game at 4k asking on various forums if they should upgrade from say the 7700x or 7900x to the 7800x3D for Gaming. There is a short and long answer to this. The long answer includes personal experience/testing.
Short Answer: This Answer is for the most users. Some of which who may be experiencing buyers remorse atm. Should you do it? No. It does not make sense to do so. Save your money and wait for 8000 series to upgrade anything.
Long Answer: This answer is for 2 niche groups. Gaming enthusiast or people who just want the best gaming experience possible and are willing to spend more to get that. This crowd is probably already on a RTX 4090. You will not always see an increase in FPS @ 4k the 7800x3D vs say a 7700x or 7900x. 100% true. But what you will 100% see is a smoother gaming experience due to better 1% lows. Smaller frame drops make the game feel much smoother and more enjoyable. I decided personally test this by borrowing a buddy's 7800x3D and dropping it in my system changing nothing but the CPU. Everyone jumps over harts and drools due to the hype. Just remember at 4k dont focus on the FPS. Remember the 1% lows are just as important.
This part includes my own personal testing/experience. I game on a 4k OLED gaming monitor on a RTX 4090. After dropping in my buddy's 7800x3D, I can tell you the majority of the games I play just felt more snappy and smoother or his 7800x3D and yes I did notice an FPS increase in some games. The more CPU intensive games of course had the most noticeable results to where it felt more night and day. I know that Im in a "niche" crowd. Due to my experience with his chip I myself will be selling my 7900x and getting a 7800x3D. I dont feel bad doing it because I got my 7900x pretty cheap at microcenter. Well under MSRP.
I hope this thread helps a some of you out who were curious or on the fence about this. Feel free to share thoughts, opinions and experiences below.

I was moving my monitor arm last night and unplugged, reinstalled a new monitor arm on my LG38GN950. Now, all of a sudden with the same DisplayPort cable it does not detect on my windows 10 PC at all. When I power it on and off, I get an audible sounds from windows recognizing something has been turned on, but all it says on screen is "no signal". I am running dual monitor setup on my 2080 ti, and tried swapping displayport cables along with power cycling and reinstalling nvidia drivers.
Nothing seems to work. What the hell is going on? Did I randomly brick my monitor just by installing a new monitor arm?
(additional question for you LG38GN950 owners - does your dispalyport cable "click" in when installed on the backplane of the monitor? Mine even inserted as far as possible does not "click" or engage. I cant remember if this was the case before I installed a new monitor arm)

I have been on elvanse for over a month and doing really well with it. I’m on 60mg a day and I normally crash towards the end of the day.
Yesterday I took my elvanse as normal at 9am, but despite a busy day, I wasn’t tired and got to bed and just couldn’t sleep a wink. Like not even a second. I was wide awake.
I even tried to go back to sleep this morning at 8am to get some hours in and couldn’t, and I feel worryingly awake despite having been awake solidly for 24 hours. I’m getting ready to crack on with the cleaning!
I’ve not had this before at all, and I’m not sure why I’ve suddenly had this. The only thing I did differently was I had a pineapple and coconut milk smoothie yesterday evening around 5pm, but I haven’t heard anything about that making it last longer.
I’m not going to take the dose this morning as I’m worried I’m just going to be wired.
Has anyone else had this as a one off issue before?

Hi, everyone! Because the 10th edition is around the corner and I'm so bloody gullible, I thought that perhaps it was a good time to start collecting 40k miniatures and, with a bit of luck, learning how to play the game too.
The thing is that there are so many incredibly cool armies that I'm completely stuck in an ocean of indecisiveness. So I would like you to tell me which of these armies to choose and why:
· White Scars (I live the Mongolian aesthetic with the sci-fi bikes)
· Chaos Daemons (I love how diverse and versatile they are because, on one hand, they are four armies in one, and on the other hand, you can play them in different games like Age of Sigmar or Kill Team too)
· Thousand Sons (I've always liked how cool they look and Magnus did nothing wrong)
· Custodes (This one is my least favourite of the list, but I converted some for my Kill Team and I see potential in them)
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THANKS in advance, guys and gals!!

I am just posting here because I would like to hear it.
There was a big fight 3 months ago. It escalated. I said that "maybe we should break up". Later on, he added some more hurtful things and he said that he would leave. I could not stand it anymore and I said "Just go". Apparently he took it as a breakup and left. I was deeply upset and I called him afterwards. I was very sick back then and I tried to run to catch the train, but he took the key with him and I could not leave my stuff in that place and I did not make it to the train station.
He kept insisting that I should apologize for what I have done. I apologized. Again. Over and over again. At some point, I asked "Are we in a relationship?" to which he asked why and I explained that "If we are not, maybe it is best that we part ways and move on" to which he replied that "he does not want the relationship to end". I asked again by email "Are we in a relationship?" and I got the reply "I think we are in a relationship." At the same time, he would refuse to visit me over and over again. (long distance relationship)
I explained countless times that I could not be in a relationship with someone who refuses to see me. He would always give a reason for why he could not visit me, like I did not apologize for my behavior, I did not change or anything.
He kept telling me that he would visit me last week for our anniversary and then he said that he could not make it and then he said this week. And now it is off because he has his father's birthday.
Last year, the family told me that I would be invited for this year. So I was upset when I learned about it and asked why I was not invited. He said that he told his parents that we were not in a relationship. I asked if I was going to be invited and he said no. That I could not make his birthday about me.
The thing is, I don't have a family. It meant the world to me to hear that last year. It was important to me. And to hear that I have been cut off like this was so hurtful. I said that I wanted to be in a relationship with someone who would his family with me. I have had exbfs who told me that even if it was over, I was still welcome in the family. I said this. He said that how can you compare this to your exbfs. I said that I don't understand how it is possible that my relationship treats me like this. He said that our relationship cannot resume if I treat him like this. I asked if we were broken up. To which he replied no. And then I asked him why he said to his parents that we were broken up. He just said that he told his parents that we were broken up and "we were trying to fix the relationship".
Towards the end of the conversation, he said something along the lines of, we are "broken up, will you accept my help now?" I explained that I wanted to make the relationship work and that this was the reason why I was sacrificing so much. That if there was no relationship, I would not have gone to so much length to try and save it. He said that he could not talk with me anymore and he wanted to cut the conversation. I felt anxious panic inside of me and said "please do not cut the conversation like this, I love you". I saw him smile. There was that feeling that he had power over me. He said again that he was cutting the conversation and that I should cool down for a few days before we get in touch again. I said that I think that he treats me like that because he thinks that he can do it because I will always return to him. He kept insisting and he said that I was wrong and I saw more of his smile. I just snapped and told him to "Go away".
Afterwards, he still managed to write the condescending email ever, telling me:
"Please know that I still love you and still want to be with you for the rest of our lives. You are the most incredible, loving and awesome person I have ever met. My family really liked you too and were excited from what I have told them about you. I do not want this relationship to end and I forgive you for ending it. I will always take you back. I will not give up on you. We can fix our relationship and you will be part of our family again. They will forgive you just as I have forgiven you. They loved you and they cared for you. Please do not give up on us. I will not abandon you. I will help you through this, no matter how hard you try to push me away. You deserve to be in a relationship. You deserve to be part of a family. I will not give up. I love you too much".
I cannot help but feel really broken and hurt. I snapped again and replied asking him how many people he had f*** while we were supposedly broken up. I told him that I do rescind my apology and that I will never apologize again. I said that I do not forgive him for what he has done.
It has been driving me crazy. I am just wondering if I have been crazy all along. Did I dream that we were in a relationship or what? Is there something wrong with me?
I think that his father should have a nice birthday and that there is too much with my ex-bf, I just did not expect to think that I was not considered to be family. I did not expect to think that I was not considered to be in a relationship.
The breakup is not final yet but I don't see how it can work out now.
Am I crazy? What is going on? I feel like I cannot fully understand or comprehend what is going on.
Can you explain his actions? Can you help me move past this in my head and help me move away from this relationship?
TL;DR: (Ex-)boyfriend 28m kept telling me28f that we were in a relationship for months only to tell me yesterday that I am not in a relationship or part of a family or anything. What the hell? I kept asking for clarifications for months and he would treat me so badly. I just cannot understand this.

Happy Pride Month my friends! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Hard to believe that we are halfway through 2023! My mailbox was already very busy this week, so it’s time for some gratitude!
u/captivatingapple Thank you for the shimmery purple postcard from Singapore 🇸🇬 It arrived in perfect condition and will be going on display! I love the Gemini stamp ♊️
u/pinkpengin u/todayisfab u/sebisrude u/keenevergreen Thank you for the postcard from your Arizona meetup 🌵 I can only imagine the fun and laughter you had together! Honorary thank you to plush pengin 🐧
u/likablelobster Thank you for the baboon zoo postcard from Germany 🐒 I can’t believe that there’s a monkey enclosure that you can walk through—how cool!
u/astarkamongwolves Thank you for the postcard from Arkansas 💜 It means SO much to me that you made the time to pick one up for me, despite how busy you were when you were there (I know, I saw the photos 😉😂)! You are such a sweet friend, love you too!
u/shipping_addict Thank you for the tiny Lomo cat card 🐱 As always, the extra stickers are appreciated!
u/tigerlady13 Thank you for the cheery butterfly card 🦋 I love Tazo tea and am looking forward to trying my first ever earl grey 🫖 Thank you as well for the extra postcard and stickers!
I don’t recall how I found RAoC, it’s been I think 4 years now. But I’m sure glad I did! No big summer plans for me, but your Independence Day weekend sounds like it’s gonna be a blast 🎆 Have fun and be safe!
u/strawberryforestlady Holy moly, what an adorable bee card you made 🐝 You totally knocked this out of the park! Thank you for bringing sweetness into my day! 🍯
u/-random_ness- Thank you for the pink, positive postcard! 💌 I appreciate your tips for calming and relaxation. I have fallen in love with my white noise machine on the rainfall setting 🌧️
u/smileyfangs Thank you for the pretty blue and gold foil nature card! Luna is such a great name for a kitty 🐱🌙 The goat sticker made me giggle 🐐 I hope you enjoyed your sundae at the Dairy Bar 🍨
u/syniel22 Thank you for the British Columbia cabin scene postcard, sent from Germany! I would adore living in a cabin in the woods 🌲 It’s illegal in Germany!? Move here and let’s go splits!

I’ve switched off our pMax campaign after much trial and more error and now trying standard shopping alone for my e-commerce store.
Can you please share if there is any machine learning/algorithm based learning used in standard shopping? Of course the user has control over bidding, we currently get a more consistent CTR through this than we did through pMax, but other than bidding, which is manual, is there algorithm based targeting involved in standard shopping?
Would be useful to know this when deciding how long to continue running this with standard shopping until we decide to call it quits.
With pMax in the past we have had some days where we’d randomly see 5 sales and then sales would drop to 0 or 1 sale per day for weeks. It felt like google just decided to turn the tap on and off for sales with absolutely no consistency. While we had much more consistent sales with smart shopping.

I was moving my monitor arm last night and unplugged, reinstalled a new monitor arm on my LG38GN950. Now, all of a sudden with the same DisplayPort cable it does not detect on my windows 10 PC at all. When I power it on and off, I get an audible sounds from windows recognizing something has been turned on, but all it says on screen is "no signal". I am running dual monitor setup on my 2080 ti, and tried swapping displayport cables along with power cycling and reinstalling nvidia drivers.
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Nothing seems to work. What the hell is going on? Did I randomly brick my monitor just by installing a new monitor arm?
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(additional question for you LG38GN950 owners - does your dispalyport cable "click" in when installed on the backplane of the monitor? Mine even inserted as far as possible does not "click" or engage. I cant remember if this was the case before I installed a new monitor arm)

Im on season 6 rn and I haven't finished it yet so i might be jumping the gun but this by far seems like the worst season so far it feels unnecessary and poorly written like why did souma's dad just randomly have an apprentice that was never mentioned at all and it just seems like bad writing. It doesn't hit the same like the previous seasons. I feel like it shouldve just ended at the end of the central arc

Yesterday my mother was cleaning my room. And in my room there is a hanger, and from there she took things off. The joke is that there, to my carelessness, it was like ... Clothes that can be defined as women's. in the pockets of some clothes I forgot two pairs of stockings. And worst of all, I forgot my insulin syringe. he was in a pocket and she saw it. I do not know what she thought .... She returned at night from the birthday of our relative. at one in the morning she burst into tears in the bathroom, then she came and said to me, "Well, let's lay it out." And my clumsy lie went on, and I said about the syringe that I don't know how it got to me, although I used it to inject estrogen. She spoke for a long time. Saying how not normal I am, that I’m already twenty years old soon, and here it is. Screaming why do I need a syringe. From time to time I repeated what a freak I am. I went to the bathroom and closed myself there. I was shaking all over. Then she started arguing with my father. Scold him for what he raised. I will not go into the details of their quarrel ... But my brother also got it verbally. He sat in the corner of the room and wept. The father took a neutral stance, but he said "I have to live with it too" so they today, I guess both did not go to work. And after a quarrel, the mother does not want to work with the father. All night I was shaking and my stomach hurt terribly from the experience. Why couldn't I be a little less distracted? my brain tries to deny that this happened. But... They must hate me. They probably want me to be gone. So that they can forget about me. I feel lonely. Abandoned by my own parents, although it would seem that I did not do anything really successful. But I... I knew that everything would be like this one day. I'm so selfish. I do not know what to do. Maybe I need to get out of the house. Only there is no money. And I have one more year to study.

I invited friends over and we had a nice bbq. We were drinking beers and all of a sudden one of the guys just randomly says I have a lazy eye/strabismus.
For context I am a very self conscious person. I used to be really fat in school and lost weight but I am still conscious about my body. I am also conscious about my nose after someone made fun of it. My friends know I’m a self conscious person if someone brings up something about my appearance.
I am a very chill person and am the type to try to make people feel good about themselves and go the extra step so people feel cared about. I do it cause I hope people would do the same for me if I needed it.
Anyway I didn’t even realise this and after I noticed it slightly, I got sick to my stomach and cried myself to sleep that night. I don’t understand why they brought up something I can’t change about myself? Was it to hurt me? I have been feeling confident lately, was it to bring my confidence down?
I recently met a few people from going out. I told everyone I have surgery. Those three friends didn’t message me once about my surgery or if it went ok. The two “strangers” I met asked me.
I just feel hurt really like they don’t actually care or they intended to hurt me. Am I overreacting here ? Do I lower my contact time with these friends ?
Thanks.
TLDR: friend picked out a flaw of mine I didn’t know about. I’m self conscious and struggled with body issues already. Friends know this and I cried myself to sleep that night. I also told them about my surgery, they didn’t ask how it went or anything. Two strangers I met did ask me about it.
I don’t want to talk to them/hang out with anymore. Am I overreacting ?

I figured Id make this post to be helpful to others because I have seen a lot of threads/questions of people who game at 4k asking on various forums if they should upgrade from say the 7700x or 7900x to the 7800x3D for Gaming. There is a short and long answer to this. The long answer includes personal experience/testing.
Short Answer: This Answer is for the most users. Some of which who may be experiencing buyers remorse atm. Should you do it? No. It does not make sense to do so. Save your money and wait for 8000 series to upgrade anything.
Long Answer: This answer is for 2 niche groups. Gaming enthusiast or people who just want the best gaming experience possible and are willing to spend more to get that. This crowd is probably already on a RTX 4090. You will not always see an increase in FPS @ 4k the 7800x3D vs say a 7700x or 7900x. 100% true. But what you will 100% see is a smoother gaming experience due to better 1% lows. Smaller frame drops make the game feel much smoother and more enjoyable. I decided personally test this by borrowing a buddy's 7800x3D and dropping it in my system changing nothing but the CPU. Everyone jumps over harts and drools due to the hype. Just remember at 4k dont focus on the FPS. Remember the 1% lows are just as important.
This part includes my own personal testing/experience. I game on a 4k OLED gaming monitor on a RTX 4090. After dropping in my buddy's 7800x3D, I can tell you the majority of the games I play just felt more snappy and smoother or his 7800x3D and yes I did notice an FPS increase in some games. The more CPU intensive games of course had the most noticeable results to where it felt more night and day. I know that Im in a "niche" crowd. Due to my experience with his chip I myself will be selling my 7900x and getting a 7800x3D. I dont feel bad doing it because I got my 7900x pretty cheap at microcenter. Well under MSRP.
I hope this thread helps a some of you out who were curious or on the fence about this. Feel free to share thoughts, opinions and experiences below.

So as some of you may have no doubt heard, Overwatch/Blizzard is taking a lot of heat for the whole PvE backtrack and trying to sort through all this noise is giving me an anxiety attack. People (I hesitate to call them fans) on the main Overwatch sub were making it sound like Overwatch could have been one of the most successful gaming IPs of all time (or at least the most successful of its genre) based on how heavily OW1 was getting promoted but that with OW2 it became "an empty shell where you could do nothing but play comp and buy skins" because of (depending on who you ask) either not buying enough OW1 lootboxes that they wouldn't have felt the need to make OW2 or buying the wrong or too many OW2 skins or just pure unadulterated greed. I tried to ask on the OW2 sub wondering what to do and the responses ranged from "it's hopeless, they're a greedy billion dollar company" to a "wait and see" that sounded more pessimistic than intended to an elaborate metaphor regarding a girl representing the playerbase and a guy representing the game and if he ever really wanted to get married if he teased engagement and never bought a ring (that A. made me in a fit of meltdown-hysteria-where-you-say-crazy-shit want to change my name to the name they gave to the player girl and go through that with a guy with the name they gave to the game guy but get a ring myself if that wouldn't mean the fans were fake because my name wasn't that girls' name originally and B. is inaccurate as a company/game-dev-team can't receive counseling the way a guy acting the way the guy in the metaphor did could and it'd be easier for the girl to propose to the guy than us to make their PvE for them) And now they just dropped another short story (that people are saying reads like a bad fanfic but I don't know if they're saying that because they're still mad about the PvE thing) that revealed a character as gay the fans have long thought was and people are saying that was to distract from the PvE issue like they said one of the past other gay reveals was to distract from the whole Blitzchung incident
Because as would be hard to explain if I haven't already explained on any of my other posts about Overwatch I have a very complicated yet strong emotional connection to this game and the characters (hence why I was so hyped about the whole gay thing that the people accusing it of being a distraction hurt me so) and the optimistic vision of the world the lore presents, I want the game to be better so whatever my own gameplay experience people can stop hating Blizzard for every little thing they do and I can enjoy the lore in peace and maybe we can encourage them to expand on things (even outside of whether or not we get the PvE) the way they did in OW1 maybe even down to the lore cartoon that was rumored a while back (if we had that for lore people might be less incensed about not PvE). However, I don't know what I can do to get them to change this shit (and the nattering nabobs of negativity on the subs aren't helping). Boycotts don't help unless everyone would otherwise have easy access (as someone not playing could just be because they don't have a PC or the right console and someone could just not buy a certain skin because they don't like it so any sales dip could be explainable in other ways unless explicitly tied to the message), people say change.org petitions don't work, even if they could be given a monetary incentive legally somehow the way people make Blizzard sound whatever we could give wouldn't be enough, would we really be able to take over the company if we brought it low enough esp. now that Microsoft's in the mix (and does that mean we could pressure Gates to pressure them), and would a class-action lawsuit for false advertising actually do any good instead of either just give us a ton of money for our trouble and/or end up shutting the game down permanently?
Help, the world needs heroes and so should the game?

So basically I decided to reach out to one of my middle school friends (I’m in college now) through instagram. I was just curious what he up to and wanted to catch up. To give some context…. I don’t know if he did like me during middle school because people would tell me that he would always look at me frequently. I would sometimes catch him staring during one class
After a week catching up, he gave me his number in the middle of the night like around 2 am. We weren’t texting at that time, but yeah I was so confused when i woke up seeing that. Then I realized it was because he deleted his insta acc. I texted him through his phone number asking why he did that. He told me it was because he was “done with instagram and didn’t need it anymore” But then after an hour I reached out to him, he got his insta account back. Now, I;m just like did he just trick me to get my phone number?
I didn’t think much of it, but after that he started posting a lot of stories on his account and I would view them.
I’m confused because I don’t know if he’s a bad texter or not. He usually replies a bit late, but I’m guessing it’s because of work.

I (22F) recently got a text from a guy (25M) that follows me and we connected really well. I haven’t connected with someone that well for a couple of months and talking to him was so easy.
He showers me with compliments. He does live in a different city but wants to take a flight to come and see me. He seems like husband material. We have been talking for two weeks, not too long.
Today I scrolled through his following for the first time. I can’t give specifics but he follows three times more people than his followers. I scrolled through his following and found a lot of celebrities (which I’m fine with) but I also found some Insta model accounts with girls posting half naked pictures. And it just upset me so much.
I did think he was on the same page as me as we had discussed cheating and he had told me he hated how normalised it had become to cheat and flirt with others outside of your relationship. But he hasn’t unfollowed any of the girls and I don’t know how to ask him about it.
He compliments my appearance but I look very different from the girls he follows. My skin tone, hair and body is very different from the accounts he follows. And now when he compliments me it feels almost fake.
I don’t want to seem controlling but I also don’t want to catch feelings for someone again and then be let down later.
Should I send him a message asking him about why he follows those girls or is it too soon as we aren’t officially boyfriend/girlfriend? And if he doesn’t unfollow them should I block him?
TL;DR should I confront the guy I’m seeing about the Insta models he’s following

Apologies for long text, this is copied from Christian Heilmann's blog where he explains his latest job looking experience after working for Microsoft quite some time. It is really good read so I wanted to share it with you all.
End of this month is my last day at Microsoft. I didn’t plan this. My original plan was to keep being a representative of that company and work on the amazing products it builds. Market forces, however, caused yet another reorg and as there was no other department with openings for remote work in Germany, we agreed to split. Who knows? Maybe things will change, but given the current trend of all big tech companies to “healthshrink”, I looked around for smaller, local companies.
Having been focused on my employer for 8 years without any interests in other opportunities I dived into the job market, brushing up my resume and using my network of great folks I interacted with over the years. So after a month of unemployment benefits, I will start a new role on the first of July.
All in all I sent out 19 applications, 11 of which got offered to me by contacts, recruiters, or the companies directly. Yes, I am a lucky person with a lot of privilege. But I also have a 20+ years track record I worked very hard on. My main source was LinkedIn but I also paid for two more services, both of which were pointless, but at least the payment is tax deductible.
I had a stressful time finding and choosing, mostly because of the people I met in the process. Everybody was nice and exciting to get to know. The offers, too, were really good and some made impostor syndrome hop about like a mechanical cymbal wielding monkey in my head. I had a hard time disappointing some dedicated people and hope I didn’t burn all bridges. In short, recruiters are people, too, so treat them like you want to be treated.
I also want to point out that the list I’m about to write feels weird as it may make me come across as a spoiled brat – at least to me. But I think it might be helpful for companies to know which things can cause someone like me to say no, even when all interactions were positive up to the last moment.
So, without more beating around the bush, here goes:
Work from office / bonkers hybrid work demands
With the hiatus in the pandemic it seems that most companies remembered that they have expensive offices their employers should use. Often they also had bad experiences with people working remotely. And I get it. Working face to face in a small company is a lot more efficient. I’m looking forward to working from an office from time to time again. But I don’t see the point of being a lead of a distributed team and having to do this from a place with a one hour commute when all my interactions would be virtual anyway. One company even asked if I could work from their office 400 kilometres away twice a week.
Remote work in tech is the most obvious thing to do – so don’t force people to waste time on the road who don’t want to.
Complex and rigid application processes and systems
Bureaucracy and red tape in companies is generally mentioned as one of the main sources of employee dissatisfaction. Therefore it is baffling to see how many companies made me jump through rows and rows of hoops – some of them burning – just to get to the first interview. I get it, at Microsoft we were also swamped with applications and there are many SaaS offers out there that promise a company to deal with that in a convenient fashion for the recruiters.
But having to replicate all the information in a secondary system after people found me on LinkedIn and got my CV through the “Easy Apply” process was always the first indicator that we won’t get to where we both apparently want to.
I keep my LinkedIn profile tidy and up-to-date, same with my CV. So having to fill in multi-step forms, some of them with two factor authentication and CAPTCHAs with the same information is not only a colossal waste of time, but also worries me as it means there is a copy of my information that will not get an update when I change my CV.
Other companies made me sign an NDA to get information about the job. Well, as an open source advocate this doesn’t bode well to what I will create in this role.
I wrote in more detail about one company asking me to answer a lot of questions in a written interview. They then sent me an online test to assess my skills that I had to do within a week and took three hours, demanding a full block of that time as you couldn’t pause and continue.
As stated in that earlier post, I get the idea of treating every hire equally, but treating me like applicant number 2324234 instead of catering the test to my skills and the role was another big flag for me.
I have to mention one special case though: one company asked me to do a case study showing my skills and explaining how I solved issues and paid for my time. This was a very interesting approach which gives the company something to work with and the applicant a feeling of not wasting time.
Super aggressive timelines
Starting a new job is a big decision and nobody likes to get badgered. I understand that it’s also a lot of work for companies to hire new folks and get them up and running.
I explained in each communication when and why I can start and that I needed some time to stomach the change and get ready for the new job. And yet seven companies asked if I could start weeks earlier as things are broken and it would need my amazing fixing skills right now. This is flattering, but also a big red flag.
Another thing several companies did was send me a contract that I needed to digitally sign that had a fixed offer expiration date two days later. Sometimes these came on a Friday and I was asked to sign by Monday. Huge, 9-10 page contracts full of boilerplate not enforceable or even applicable.
This isn’t “I read the terms and conditions” before downloading a demo app. This is our professional work agreement. Companies and applicants should expect that there is a necessary review and alteration period.
Automated responses and processes with no context of your application
Especially with US companies but also with agencies and government affiliated companies I had a few run-ins when it comes to automated gatekeeping. Although the job offers mentioned “degree or comparable experience” many had forms where adding a degree was mandatory and I got automatically filtered out.
It also felt like a massive waste of time being contacted by recruiters because of your profile just to be asked by every single interviewer to repeat the information in the profile in interview forms. You can give an applicant a much better feeling of being in an onboarding process if information already provided gets sent on through the stages.
Boilerplate social benefits without insight into local or personal requirements
There is a big difference between a company providing a social benefits net to feel safe in and a company that tries to impress you with perk offers that seem great, but ultimately don’t apply to you.
Some companies I talked to obviously partnered with a third party provider that offered a US package that would make folks there happy but didn’t even cover the basic legal requirements in Germany. Workplaces need to contribute to the public healthcare fund or cover part of your personal insurance.
It is great that companies offer social perks, but the most grating thing I found in some of the offers is that they are a non-starter. Many social perks, like a personal pension fund partly covered by your employer, need years of accumulation to make sense. I had quite a few companies that offered them but when I asked about the average retention of employees in the company people admitted that most folks stay for a year and move on. This felt like a strange disconnect.
Aggressive haggling and the myth of competitive salary
There was no doubt that it would be tough for European companies to match the salary and compensation package of an 8 year career in a US tech giant. So I slashed 20% of what I had earned for the convenience of working for a company that isn’t confused about European tax, social packages benefits and support instead of perpetual growth demands.
However, some of the offers were just incredibly low considering the high taxation here. Even worse were offers that had no range or figure but offered “competitive salary” instead. When I offer “competitive skills” people probably would have questions, too.
I was very candid in my demands, which went down really well with all the people I talked to. When candid answers then told me that I would earn more than most of my peers or even managers I knew I couldn’t do it. It’s good to be clear.
Huge discrepancy between skills offered and skills needed without a plan to cover the gap
I was flattered by some of the offers as it would mean I had to push myself to learn new skills or transfer to have the ones I got into other environments. It’s also a concern when there was no mention of an adjustment period or introduction to internal systems and processes programs.
Sure, some skills are easy to transfer, but I remember vividly how much I hated dealing with managers coming in not knowing half of what I did and keeping things generic not to be found out. Maybe I was too chicken there, but it would be good not to be thrown into situations where you need to prove your skills to yourself and to the people you are supposed to lead.
No job offer will be a perfect match and it is a back and forth to meet in the middle. But it would be great to have clarity on what the process of getting to learn about the company environment is and how much time you have to get enough confidence to start running the team without feeling like a fraud.
Things applicants and companies can do to make this smoother
All in all, I had a positive experience on a human level but I found that there is a lot to be improved in the processes of finding a job in tech even on the senior level I am at. I can only imagine what it would be like to apply as a junior where the human excitement of your application isn’t as high. So here are some things I found any applicant should do and I could have done better.
As an applicant you should:
Get ready to have a lot of demands, things to fill out and do. I was kind of rushing things in the beginning, freaking out that I will need to find a new job soon. This lead to me applying for a lot of things at the same time and feeling overwhelmed with the work this meant. Don’t panic. You will find a job eventually. It makes a lot more sense to focus on a few offers and prepare yourself thoroughly than casting a wide net.
Have a clear goal what you want to do – there are a lot of exciting job offers, but if you apply for the reason of having a “cool” job, you ultimately don’t have the skills for and don’t feel you will get the time to learn them upfront, you are wasting people’s – and your – time.
Have a list of “must have” benefits and perks you don’t back out from – that includes a minimal salary and work situation definition (remote, hybrid, on-site – in the latter case including the information how long of a commute you are ready to take on)
Do your homework learning about the job offer, the company behind it and what you specifically can bring to the table. This includes a CV catered to the job application and role.
Communicate clearly your earliest possible start date and availability for interviews and tests – I used Calendly for that.
Communicate if you have other offers and by when these decisions are due – this is great to speed up the process
Appreciate the efforts and time of people involved – recruiters and interviewers have to deal with a lot of applications. Be on time for your interviews, don’t leave people hanging with answers and have your materials ready for the different steps of the process.
Companies should:
Value the work applicants put into the process. We spend a lot of time writing and optimising our CVs and LinkedIn profile, so use this information but don’t ask us to repeat it all the time or fill out your internal systems.
Be aware of the fact that automated systems with arbitrary gatekeeping mechanisms are great to stem the flood of mass applications and fake applications but will make you miss out on great talent and start the process with a bad experience if there are false positives
Value the time people need to ponder your job offer and give enough time read through contracts
Be aware that a job application and how it is handled is a first impression that goes both ways. We always have the impression that applicants have to put their best foot forward and spruce up to get the job, but in a highly paid environment with a severe lack of talent this very much goes both ways.
Give a sense of clarity of what the company wants to do in the next few years and how it would affect the applicant. Freelancing is always an option and people choose to join a company for the reason of having security, not help a company even find its place in the market.
I hope this is helpful to some. It helped me, writing it down. I am happy to have met so many interesting companies and people during this last month and hope to keep in contact and work together in other capacities.