I'm moving her in on Monday and I just need some support, she had a stroke a few years ago and she lost mobility with her left arm. she broke her humerus a week ago, she had a stroke a few years ago and they had to put a nail through her arm and they found out that she had adenocarcinoma bone cancer. I am 28 and have a husband and 2 sons. My MIL and FIL live next door and had a extra room, so me and my husband spent all day cleaning up. Tomorrow we will go get her things, and she will be here with me. I am so worried about this because I have never done this, I'm trying to tell myself that it'll be just like the kids. Deep down I know what I am setting up for, I watched my grandmothers rapid decline when she had it. We cannot afford to get the treatments she needs, she's got a lawyer for SSDI so I've been imcontact with him about getting her insurance expedited, sadly I think it will still take a while. I am terrified, sad, worried. She didn't want to go back home, everytime I see her in the hospital you can tell she's holding back tears. I try to stay strong for her but it's tough. She can't even walk at this moment due to her having a fractured back. They said that the cancer was aggressive, she goes to an oncologist on the 12th, and we will figure out everything. This is tough for me, I never expected to watch my mom go through this and now I'm just sad and angry. I am stressing over taking care of her 24/7 I know my kids will love to have her around, me and my husband put alot of thought into this, we didn't right away pick an answer. We've been thinking about it for a week now. She sat 18 hours with her broke arm before anybody checked on her, she was yelling for help but Noone heard her until then. She lives right outside my aunts house and by my uncle, even my brother lives right there. I think that might have a huge factor in why she doesn't want to go back be abuse at this ment all she can do is lay there. She can't use the bathroom on her own, she can't even walk. I just don't want to make any mistakes and want to make sure she is taken care of completely. This just sucks. I have so many different emotions but I know that she is having a hard time with this so I don't want her to see me upset. She took care of my grandma whenever she went through cancer and passed. I was still a teenager but I remember it so well so I kind of know what to expect. It's just going to be tough seeing her go through this.

Context: I’m 27F dating 23M. We’ve been together 7 months, he’s so sweet, has an amazing heart, is very kind, has hobbies, working on his shit, and overall wonderful. I have therapy next week but will take advice from strangers at this point. I grew up just above the poverty line and haven’t lived at home in 10 years, he’s never not lived at home and has grown up middle upper class. There’s nothing wrong with being super supported by family and never having to struggle with money. He doesn’t pay rent, make food, or really do any cleaning (they have a housekeeper). Overall, he lacks a lot of life experiences I’ve had. I’m not moving in with him until he’s lived outside his family home. I kind of feel like I can be his mom or be taking away his lessons and growth as I can get annoyed and just step up and do shit. I know this’ll make me sound like a total dick but I get really annoyed when he tells me that he’s made dinner or done something else that is part of basic life for me as he’s looking for validation and learning. I’m really unsure if I have the patience for this - I don’t feel good about that. Has anyone dealt with this? How did you deal with it? I’m at my wits end and idk what to do😭 I love him so much and he’s not doing anything wrong. He’s at where he’s at.

Okay, so long story short, my Nan has dementia and doesn't have much longer to live, she's barely eating and drinking and her health is constantly declining. She is moving down to a care home near where I live since she lives 4 hours away currently. Also, my sister has been evicted from her house because her Landlord doesn't want to fix any of the ongoing problems in the house she has been renting, so she is stuck at my other sister's house, which is a 2 bedroom house, that now needs to hold 7 people. My sister and my mother are extremely stressed, and so am I. I have exams as well, I've already done a few but I have more coming up and I just feel extremely stressed with everything.
Now, onto my girlfriend. She's amazing, she honestly makes me feel really happy, but sometimes I don't know if I'm fit for a relationship right now, I don't know what to do. She is going through her own problems and I really want to be there for her, but at the same time, my mental health really isn't good right now. I did try breaking up with her before, as I wanted to focus on myself, but I ended up feeling really bad about it, and we're back together. I told her if my mental health got worse I may need to consider a break up but I really don't have the heart to do it. She's such a lovely person and she's going through a lot right now. I just can't bring myself to break up with her. Seeing her upset in school would destroy me and I know it.
I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm fit for a relationship, we don't see each other much now, and I constantly worry about the fact that I'm doing something wrong. I'm taking a lot of time to talk to my friends and do things alone that I really enjoy, as it takes my mind off of things, whilst also spending a lot of time with my mother, and other members of my family, because we are all going through a tough time. I love my girlfriend but I am so stuck. I want to be there for her but at the same time I feel as if I need to focus on me. I don't know if I'm being selfish, or an awful boyfriend, but I just feel stressed and confused, hence why I turned to reddit.
I apologise for such a long piece of writing, I hope everyone is having a lovely day.

Me and my girlfriend of 2 years got an apartment together last October. Back in January she lost her job unexpectedly and the financial burdens of rent and bills mostly fell upon me for the next four months until she started a new job just a couple weeks ago. Carrying both of us over those months has been very difficult for me financially and we were just scraping by. I have recently transitioned into working for a new company which has delayed my next paycheck longer than I previously thought which means I would be short on rent this month unless of course my girlfriend would help pay for it with the money from her new job. Well today, she realized that the voucher for a plane ticket that she had since last year would be expiring in the next two weeks unless she used it and she decided to book a last minute trip to Hawaii this week all within a couple hours of her realizing her voucher's experation date and telling me about it. I am completely floored by this irresponsibility. She has been obsessed with going to Hawaii and I have no idea how she has not taken lodging, food, and travel expenses into consideration. My frustration is through the roof and I have been avoiding this conversation with her because right now I don't know how to have a calm discussion over this. This decision seems completely selfish and how I would feel about this wasn't even considered. I am working overtime hours and we have two dogs at home to take care of and there was no plan discussed on how any of this will work. Any advice on how to have approach this and have a rational conversation about an irrational decision?
TDLR, after months of struggling to keep me and my girlfriend afloat when she lost her job, she surprises me with a last minute solo trip to Hawaii while I'm short on rent and we're transitioning into new jobs

We just found our perfect home and want to make an offer on it. We need to arrange a small mortgage but are very early in the process and do not yet have pre-approval.
The property is in Nambour and we're in Brisbane, due to our child's school we would not be able to move until the end of the school year.
The rental appraisal for the property more than covers the repayments.
Can we get the mortgage and not mention we will rent out the property until we move in December?

I had an incident tonight that sparked some ideas in me, and I want to capture them before they slip away or I lose the courage to express them. Please forgive any mistakes or rawness in my writing.
Ever since I started going out with Parker, I've been enjoying myself and connecting with so many people. It has made me feel "normal" again, with less focus on my disabilities and more focus on others. I believe this is my salvation and my best path towards living a purpose-driven life. That conviction hasn't changed.
Tonight, around 7pm, as I was crossing the street in front of the grill, I stumbled and fell and while I experience occasional falls at home, those are usually minor trips where I catch myself on the couch, or I fall onto a padded carpet. This fall was different. It was a series of stumbles, almost catching myself, but ending up face-first on the hard asphalt. If my spinal cord injury hadn't robbed me of the ability to feel pain on my right side, the physical pain would have matched the psychological pain it caused. And that's what I feel compelled to write about.
To me, falling encompasses more than just injuries, pain, or potential embarrassment. It's that moment mid-fall when you have no control, no physical capability to break your descent, and you're at the mercy of gravity and momentum. That feeling of powerlessness is the worst part, and for a while now, I had forgotten just how terrifying that can be.
However, that's only the first part of my story. As I rode home, emotions overwhelmed me—still are—and they led me to consider ideas that may never have connected otherwise. Earlier tonight, I had a sense of pleasure regarding a person who also experienced a fall today. I admit I found satisfaction in witnessing this "world leader" stumble and faceplant on a stage in front of everyone. I have come to blame him for many problems that have recently affected my finances, and there are other issues he’s responsible for that I won't discuss here. This isn’t about politics. But one thing I realize is that it's wrong to revel in or celebrate someone else's failures. Falling is falling, and perhaps, just maybe, it affected him as deeply as it affected me, even if he does possess money and power to alleviate that pain.
To summarize what I'm attempting to say is that one's health and mobility are precious gifts that can be taken away unexpectedly and within my story lies a lesson about how the wishes or intentions we have for others can easily come back to haunt us. A line from the movie "The Color Purple" keeps echoing in my mind: "The jail you planned for me is the one you gonna rot in." In other words, it's best to wish and hope only the best for other people.
I hope I remember this lesson.

Hey everyone, I'm new to reddit. I'm 24 and recently graduated with my bachelors and masters in Computer Engineering. I recently got a job in Northern VA area making around 160K a year salary. I recently purchased a brand new vehicle at 4.99% APR. I traded in my old car and bought a 2023 Lexus RX350 for $57000. I put 0 down. My monthly payment is around a $1000 a month. I love the car and it's first time I bought a brand new car in my life. I also have student debt but that is currently on pause right now because of the pandemic pause so the interest rate is 0% but total student loan is $35K.
My debts are:

1. Student Loan $35K at 0% currently (but will go up in interest once pause is lifted (3%-5%))
2. 2023 Lexus RX350 at $57K with 4.99% APR (Around $1000 a month)

Total = $92K debt
I contribute just the match to my 401K which is 6%, around $800 a month. My take home is:
$8600 after 401K and taxes
Rent is $1750 a month, and food and gas total around $500 a month
I also have miscellaneous and other expenses such as gym and martial arts.
I save around $3700 after all expenses, after the car payments and everything else. Is this good amount to save? And is 5% considered high interest because I think average return on S&P500 is around 7-8% with inflation included? What do you guys think?

Hi my Developmentally disabled cousin ripped her patellar tendon in her knee. 2 surgeons at Scripps Encinitas hospital have refused to fix her knee. They are worried about their success rates. She's having complications from not being mobile. The hospital sent her home on palitive care. I don't see how a Dr. Can send her home to die! This is so wrong to me! She spent 3 weeks in the hospital after hurting her knee. Went home for 5 days and we are back in the hospital again.

 Please give her a chance at life, she's only 52. 

A little bit of context, so I (f21) live at home with both of my parents, my older sister and her boyfriend, and my younger sister. We all have steady jobs and we have 6 cars total. We don't have an accessible garage, and our driveway can really only fit 3-4 cars effectively. Because of the overlaps of our work schedules, we usually park 2 or 3 cars on the street to make it easier for people to leave for work or school. We have been doing this since around November of last year, which during that time, the neighbors in question were living in Florida, so they weren't around. They recently came back and started noticing the cars on the street, we didn't think much of it. Until one day, after a 10 hour shift, I pull up to the curb and park on the street, and my neighbor (m, mid to late 60's) comes up and knocks on my window. I roll it down and he starts telling me that I cant park there (on the public street). I explained to him that due to our living situation, everybody having jobs, needing stable transportation, and our driveway not being big enough, that we are making due the best we can, and that we're expecting our living situation to change within the next couple of months so hopefully that can fix some issues. He refused to hear me out, in which I responded "So i cant park on the public street?" and he stormed off. Since then, he has harassed my younger sister (f17) when parking on the street after getting home from school, called animal control about our dogs (they're both vaccinated, licensed, and we have a fenced in yard so they didn't find any problems), and have called the state police to report my father for "reckless endangerment" while driving after seeing him pull out of the driveway on his way to work, not once, but twice in the past week (the officers stopped him but didn't find any problems both times).
I'm not sure if falsely accusing someone of reckless endangerment is considered a false police report but is there any way to file a report / complaint against them for doing that? Is it possible to go to the police to report harassment, in hopes that maybe they can talk to the neighbors and tell them that they need to stop? It's just irritating that I go out to my car everyday worried that I might have a slashed tire or get pulled over or harassed by my neighbors for simply parking on a public street.

So im kind of a geeky / nerdy guy. Im kinda fit and I have a decent job in consulting, but Im definitely not your typical boulder climber or mountain biker type.
I like going on hikes and I ride my bike from time to time, but thats pretty much it. Everything else is geeky or nerdy.
I usually spend my off hours playing video games and watching series / anime. Not the pervy kind of anime if that matters.
I always considered myself too much of a geek to join the app, but im legit curious, do you think there is a chance for someone like me? For example, if I were to create a profile, it would include something like this:
Media: Likes the anime Bleach and Hellsing, the series Supernatural, the Originals, Friends and How I met your Mother; plays League of Legends and World of Warcraft with friends. Im open to D&D and other tabletop games we can invite friends over for.
Music: Into goth, metal and rock, but I can vibe with any good song regardless of genre, including rap and pop.
Outdoors: Loves hikes and bike rides, can walk a dog if we get one.
Work: Works in Tech as a consulting product owner from home.
House: Currently renting for myself but can afford a house and a car if we decide to get serious...
Age: Im 28.
I dont wanna be in it just for the sex, I would actually want to find a woman with similar interests and therefore my question. I know it can sound pathetic that anime or music or series mean anything to me being almost 30, but if talking about a serious relationship, it definitely matters!
Do you think it's worth even considering this app or is it more for like one night stands for cool people?

A little background.
As a stepmother to two children aged 10 and 9, I am dealing with my partner's high-conflict biological mother who has made things difficult for us. My partner and the mother were never married, but they were together for nine years until he found out she cheated on him and got pregnant with someone else's child. He left her in late 2018, and she was left as a single mother with a newborn from her affair. The other guy left her as well. Despite this, she demanded that SO continued to help her financially with rent and phone bills, threatening him with child support if he didn't comply. She also demanded that he give her rides everywhere since she didn't have a car and refused to ask her other child's father for help because she wasn’t in a relationship with him.
My partner did his best to help her out, but she took advantage of his kindness and would often refuse her own parenting time that they had agreed on, due to her own plans and activities. There were instances where the biological mother had not been home on her scheduled days for drop off and my partner had to keep the kids for weeks. She would turn her phone off, ignore texts and calls so he was forced to keep the kids. She would inform him that she wasn't going home for the night and would be out. On other occasions, she would say that she was working six days a week and wanted to have her own plans on her only day off, leaving my partner to watch the kids during her scheduled time. He helped her a lot due to her needing a sitter during her work hours and her refusing to watch the kids during her time. She would also change pick-up locations for my partner last minute and make him wait for long periods of time during exchanges, causing him to be late to work, and miss other important commitments.
In 2020, she moved in with her boyfriend (AP and now they have 3 younger kids) . SO thought since she was settling down, she would stick to a schedule and be more responsible so they agreed to a 2/2/5/5 schedule, but she still refused to stick to it and it became worse because she would often make him wait for hours to pick up or drop off the kids. Or wouldn’t be home for the kids on her days. He even called the cops on her once when he waited over an hour to pick up the kids, and her phone was off. Her complex has gated controlled access so he can’t enter the complex. Additionally, at that time, she refused to drop off the kids to him when he asked, claiming that she didn't have a car, no ride and refused to take Uber or Lyft due to COVID. She only found transportation for her convenience & only decided to drop off the kids to him when it was convenient for her, when she had plans on her parenting time. She also threatened to not follow the schedule if he left without the kids for pick ups because she was taking too long to exchange. She threatened my bf with calling the cops on him for having a stranger she didn’t know watch the kids at his place during his time because he had to work.
There was a time when my partner asked the biological mother to help him watch the kids for a few hours a week while he finished his training for a new job, since she wasn’t working, but she refused. This caused him to push back his training due to not having childcare. During this time, his car broke down, and he was unable to drop off the kids to her. He asked her to pick them up, but she claimed she had no ride and refused to take a Lyft due to COVID.
When my partner finally put his foot down, she didn't pick up the kids until a week and a half later, leaving him to have them for two full weeks. During this time, she complained about not being able to pick them up and accused him of keeping the kids from her. She threatened to call the cops on him and interrogated the kids about whether his car was really broken down or not.
She finally picked up the kids after not having a ride, but conveniently told my partner she was dropping them off the day of which was only two days later when she was supposed to keep them for five days. This caused him to lose his job due to not having childcare in such short notice.
When she dropped off the kids, my partner talked to her and told her how much he and his mom had helped her with childcare in the past and how he lost his job because she wasn't willing to help him out when he had never asked her for anything. She kept telling him it wasn't her fault he lost his job, and she blamed him for not sticking to the schedule and not wanting to drop off the kids to her saying that’s why he lost his job. He was already stressed and had enough. She then went to his mom and told her he had no right to tell her those things because it wasn't her fault he lost his job. Overall, it was a difficult and stressful time for my partner.
After that incident he told her that she needed to provide transportation for her time since she had a ride to conveniently drop them off after not being able to pick them up causing a hardship for him. So the following month she started doing pick ups with Lyft/Uber because my partner was not helping her out anymore and by this time she had her second child with her bf. She had taken advantage of his transportation long enough.
In late 2021 she and her bf finally got a car but she doesn’t drive so she gets rides from him or Lyft/uber for pick ups. He finally decided to file for his parental rights and 50/50 legal and physical custody but didn’t go into any details of it in 2021, but she still continued to be difficult and never showed up to mediation or responded to the papers she was served.
Dilemma
Now, I am helping with pick-ups since my partner has two new jobs and is unavailable during the day. However, I am nervous that the biological mother will give me a hard time and make me wait or change pick-up locations during exchanges.
The biological mother would often call me out and insult me through my partner's phone conversations about the kids. I tried to reach out to her to establish a mutual level of respect and maturity, but she refused and refused to meet me, was disrespectful and blocked my number, saying she doesn't need to text me about anything.
I am looking for advice on how to handle pick-ups with my partner's high-conflict biological mother (HCBM) and ensure that I am treated fairly. One option we are considering is having my partner communicate with HCBM to let her know that I will be picking up the kids from her place only (so she doesn’t try to change locations and have me drive around and if she does, I will simply ask her to let me know when they are back at her house to pick them up) and let her know that I will only wait for 15 minutes to receive them. ( This is because in the past, HCBM has made my partner wait for over an hour for pick-up just for her enjoyment)
I want to avoid similar situations and ensure that HCBM knows that I won't tolerate mistreatment during pick-ups or at all. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be appreciated.

https://www.kcmo.gov/home/showpublisheddocument/10535/638188122476870000
93% of units today are unregistered today.
new rules go into effect June 15.
Registrations seem to last one year right now. They say currently registered ones in residential districts can continue, but it‘s not 100% clear if that means no longer when the registration ends or if they’ll allow renewal. Not all multi unit buildings are in residential zones but all single family homes should be.
if you don’t live in the unit as your home you must have a business license. So this comes with validating paying all taxes, the city does do this for all accounts. The fee for a business license comes with giving revenue, costs, taxes, etc numbers. Which they can audit. Not everyone gets a business license today. I would call this something that any good renter or landlord would want to see.
A new 7.5% tax was passed in April.
There’s a per room fee as well. If a place advertises four sleeping rooms they add $16 on if all four are occupied. that’s on top of the tax. (You immediately are asking how they validate how many are occupied, if the place has four rooms for three people, if they can’t rent the additional room out I bet that counts but maybe not???)
Here’s the big one. The code requires the platforms to delist unregistered units and a violation, such as renting with a pending application, can mean a one year ban from the city.
I would expect a huge drop in KC of units if AirBNB cooperates, and I don’t see why they wouldn’t.

I have some spare rooms in our family home and are considering renting them out for the school year. I'm wondering where we should advertise. Kijiji? Facebook? Anywhere else?

Anxiety like my therapist says?
Is this anxiety? Or what?
I didn't go to pre-K, I did go to a morning class but I never went to pre-k. In 1st grade I went half days, and my mom would take me out in the afternoons. I did go to a homeschooling teacher for a little while, I can't remember how I did. Then 2nd through 4th grade I went normally. Then, she took me out to homeschool me, it didn't work out so she stuck me back in later in the year.
I surely fell behind because I couldn't stay focused on my schoolwork at home, that's why my mom put me back in public schooling. Which I'm thankful for. I missed a lot of school through my education years, due to an illness I had which had me vomiting quite frequently. They took me out of class for math because I fell behind, and I had comprehension issues due to my ADHD. I have attention deficits. But, now it's gotten better. In 5th grade towards the end of the year they brought up to my mom they would like to place me on an IEP due to falling behind in a few subjects; Reading and Mathematics.
Fast forward to current time, given I was in an IEP I feel like I'm intellectually or developmentally delayed. I feel like I'm slow, I currently live at home and work in the hospital as a certified nursing assistant. I work full time, but I feel dumb. I pay rent at home even though I'm so bad with money it's insane. I'm impulsive with money especially, I prioritize things badly. I know I'm doing it too, it's just like impulsive. It's weird. I have bad anxiety, social anxiety as well.. anxiety for every situation it seems like. I've gone to therapy for it, because I feel like I'm existing... not living. My therapist says that given that I was able to pass my CNA state certification I'd have to be average or above average in intelligence to even pass it.
I feel like everyone around me knows something is "off". Even though I haven't heard it, I'm sure they talk? I don't really care about anything else anyone has to say BUT the thought of them thinking that I'd be slow or intellectually delayed bothers me. As a kid I walked and talked on time, and passed my childhood milestones. It wasn't ever indicated I was intellectually delayed.
I got employee of the month 2 months being in the hospital, but I've made big mistakes no one got hurt. I've been a CNA 4 years prior. These nurses are my age and younger and they seem so mature. I feel like sometimes I feel dumb and inadequate. I'm quiet, but I want to be smart and an intellectual. They always say how a hard job I do. These nurses hangout and are friends with each other. I feel out of sorts here. There's been times where they come sit by me cause I sit away from them. Do you think they think something is off? They seem to like me and keep me included. THEY are articulate, I think I'm articulate online but offline it's bad.
I don't know if I'm overthinking this?
There's patients that come in with cognitive deficits or intellectual disabilities. I don't act like them, but everytime I hear something along those lines I panic. I worry people think that about me. I worked with adults with intellectual disabilities and it triggered something in me. I had to quit because of it.
I got drunk the other night and said to my friends "I think I'm slow" and they were like "No you arent!" But idk if they say they cause they didn't want to hurt my feelings.
The CNA test is common sense but my therapist said that I'd have to hold an average intelligence.
I still live at home, I'm 26, needing dental work done and now I have to get insurance on my own because I don't have any now. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Is this just anxiety? My one friend said socially I probably have anxiety over. I do have bad social anxiety and I'm quiet. I spend money and sometimes go into overdrafts, I'm bad with money but I know I am and it's an issue. I spend money to be happy, because I'm so sad a lot. I am paying off my car to my mom, I pay rent everyday check to my mom. It's not like I'm living here for free. I would love my own place but I can't afford it.
I feel like at work I'm slow, even though they tell me I do amazing. These nurses are younger and my age and they are so assertive, confident and I more so go with the flow.
I'm pretty quiet, I'm opening up now. I feel like I do stupid shit all the time... and I've been a CNA for a long time. They are assertive and I feel like they tell me what to do.
I just hope my friends going forward don't say anymore after the encounter on my drunk night. I'll just play it off as I was drunk lol

Hi everyone,
We're a small family relocating soon to Gilbert (or near areas) from New Zealand. We've heard so many good (and some bad) things about Gilbert, so we're really excited about this change.
I'll probably arrive first by early July and my wife and daughter will catch up shortly afterwards. We'll look for an apartment first, then maybe rent a house once we settle down and get more familiar with Gilbert.
I know this kind of questions are always subjective, but based on your experience in recent years what can you tell me about:

• Recommended area (or top areas) to start? (preferably close to a good public school, daughter is 12 so I think she'd begin 7th grade), so I can look for a place nearby.
  
  • Best car dealers? (I might get a 2nd hand cheap EV to get from point A to B only - home to work and back).
  • Recommended banks? (or worst ones that I should stay away from 😂)
  • Recommended cell phone companies?
  • Recommended internet providers?

I'm probably missing something but that's all I can think of right now. All do's, and don'ts will be very much appreciated.
Thanks!!

As a stepmother to two children aged 10 and 9, I am dealing with my partner's high-conflict biological mother who has made things difficult for us. My partner and the mother were never married, but they were together for nine years until he found out she cheated on him and got pregnant with someone else's child. He left her in late 2018, and she was left as a single mother with a newborn from her affair. The other guy left her as well. Despite this, she demanded that SO continued to help her financially with rent and phone bills, threatening him with child support if he didn't comply. She also demanded that he give her rides everywhere since she didn't have a car and refused to ask her other child's father for help because she wasn’t in a relationship with him.
My partner did his best to help her out, but she took advantage of his kindness and would often refuse her own parenting time that they had agreed on, due to her own plans and activities. There were instances where the biological mother had not been home on her scheduled days for drop off and my partner had to keep the kids for weeks. She would turn her phone off, ignore texts and calls so he was forced to keep the kids. She would inform him that she wasn't going home for the night and would be out. On other occasions, she would say that she was working six days a week and wanted to have her own plans on her only day off, leaving my partner to watch the kids during her scheduled time. He helped her a lot due to her needing a sitter during her work hours and her refusing to watch the kids during her time. She would also change pick-up locations for my partner last minute and make him wait for long periods of time during exchanges, causing him to be late to work, and miss other important commitments.
In 2020, she moved in with her boyfriend (AP and now they have 3 younger kids) . SO thought since she was settling down, she would stick to a schedule and be more responsible so they agreed to a 2/2/5/5 schedule, but she still refused to stick to it and it became worse because she would often make him wait for hours to pick up or drop off the kids. Or wouldn’t be home for the kids on her days. He even called the cops on her once when he waited over an hour to pick up the kids, and her phone was off. Her complex has gated controlled access so he can’t enter the complex. Additionally, at that time, she refused to drop off the kids to him when he asked, claiming that she didn't have a car, no ride and refused to take Uber or Lyft due to COVID. She only found transportation for her convenience & only decided to drop off the kids to him when it was convenient for her, when she had plans on her parenting time. She also threatened to not follow the schedule if he left without the kids for pick ups because she was taking too long to exchange. She threatened my bf with calling the cops on him for having a stranger she didn’t know watch the kids at his place during his time because he had to work.
There was a time when my partner asked the biological mother to help him watch the kids for a few hours a week while he finished his training for a new job, since she wasn’t working, but she refused. This caused him to push back his training due to not having childcare. During this time, his car broke down, and he was unable to drop off the kids to her. He asked her to pick them up, but she claimed she had no ride and refused to take a Lyft due to COVID.
When my partner finally put his foot down, she didn't pick up the kids until a week and a half later, leaving him to have them for two full weeks. During this time, she complained about not being able to pick them up and accused him of keeping the kids from her. She threatened to call the cops on him and interrogated the kids about whether his car was really broken down or not.
She finally picked up the kids after not having a ride, but conveniently told my partner she was dropping them off the day of which was only two days later when she was supposed to keep them for five days. This caused him to lose his job due to not having childcare in such short notice.
When she dropped off the kids, my partner talked to her and told her how much he and his mom had helped her with childcare in the past and how he lost his job because she wasn't willing to help him out when he had never asked her for anything. She kept telling him it wasn't her fault he lost his job, and she blamed him for not sticking to the schedule and not wanting to drop off the kids to her saying that’s why he lost his job. He was already stressed and had enough. She then went to his mom and told her he had no right to tell her those things because it wasn't her fault he lost his job. Overall, it was a difficult and stressful time for my partner.
After that incident he told her that she needed to provide transportation for her time since she had a ride to conveniently drop them off after not being able to pick them up causing a hardship for him. So the following month she started doing pick ups with Lyft/Uber because my partner was not helping her out anymore and by this time she had her second child with her bf. She had taken advantage of his transportation long enough.
In late 2021 she and her bf finally got a car but she doesn’t drive so she gets rides from him or Lyft/uber for pick ups. He finally decided to file for his parental rights and 50/50 legal and physical custody but didn’t go into any details of it in 2021, but she still continued to be difficult and never showed up to mediation or responded to the papers she was served.
Now, I am helping with pick-ups since my partner has two new jobs and is unavailable during the day. However, I am nervous that the biological mother will give me a hard time and make me wait or change pick-up locations during exchanges.
The biological mother would often call me out and insult me through my partner's phone conversations about the kids. I tried to reach out to her to establish a mutual level of respect and maturity, but she refused and refused to meet me, was disrespectful and blocked my number, saying she doesn't need to text me about anything.
I am looking for advice on how to handle pick-ups with my partner's high-conflict biological mother (HCBM) and ensure that I am treated fairly. One option we are considering is having my partner communicate with HCBM to let her know that I will be picking up the kids from her place only (so she doesn’t try to change locations and have me drive around and if she does, I will simply ask her to let me know when they are back at her house to pick them up) and let her know that I will only wait for 15 minutes to receive them. ( This is because in the past, HCBM has made my partner wait for over an hour for pick-up just for her enjoyment)
I want to avoid similar situations and ensure that HCBM knows that I won't tolerate mistreatment during pick-ups or at all. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be appreciated.

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I need emergency dental treatment in my home. My insurance will not cover that. $400 for the visit; $300 for the pull/filling. I am in serious back molar pain! I am 30; bedbound; cannot be alone; cannot stand; cannot walk. I have a very limited income and need to make it stretch as far as possible so I can afford to eat, literally. Thank you!!!

I'm probably in the wrong spot, but I would like advice. Yesterday, we noticed a small flood under our mobile home. Had maintenance come out. They said it's under the ground and a contractor won't be able to come until Monday. They drained the water that was there and went on their way. Well, today the entire underside of the trailer is flooded. We tried to get a hold of the park, but of course they won't answer.
I guess what I want to know is what to expect? I expect the landlord to try and be scummy and pin us with the bill. I plan on refusing to pay it. We do not own the land. I need to check our contract for specifics on that. I should probably remove all the skirting, right?

Introduction
1) Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?
Yes it will be the first dog I've owned or lived with. However, I've been a dog-walker / sitter for 10 years with lots of breeds (such as husky, basset hound, beagle, Jack Russell, Yorkshire terrier, Pyrenees mountain dog, rottweiler, and many more) and I'm qualified at a university degree level with domestic animal care and I've been doing research on dogs since I can remember. Dogs are a big part of my life.
2) Do you have a preference for rescuing a dog vs. going through a reputable breeder?
I have no particular preference, but I would like a puppy.
3) Describe your ideal dog.
Very trainable and loves to learn tricks. I can provide a lot of mental stimulation. A good companion dog who likes to me around me. Minimal loud barking. A dog that loves to play, learn new things, and adventure but is OK with some chill days and is adaptable. Is OK with being off-lead and does not have a high prey drive (so, doesn't run away chasing squirrels and rabbits). A dog that can live with other dogs and cats.
4) What breeds or types of dogs are you interested in and why?
Toy poodle -> very trainable and smart, minimal shedding/hypoallergenic (not a necessity but a plus), loves to play and get moderate exercise but doesn't require intensive exercise, they seem cuddly lol.
Miniature American shepherd / Australian Shepherd / border collie -> very trainable, loves to learn tricks and be mentally stimulated, looks adorable, however needs a lot of exercise or a job, not the most adaptable, I worry about getting this dog as a first-time owner.
Pembroke/Cardigan Welsh corgi -> trainable and playful, but can be stubborn/bossy and prone to barking.
Other breeds I've looked into: golden retriever, Labrador retriever, German shepherd, Nova Scotia duck tolling retriever, Swedish vallhund, Japanese spitz, Norwegian bunhund, Eurasier, Shetland sheepdog, Norwegian elkhound, Finnish lapphund, smooth/rough collie, Samoyed.
5) What sorts of things would you like to train your dog to do?
Anything and everything! The important would be potty training and walking off-lead and playing fetch. But doing things like playing volleyball, dancing, and hide and seek would be SO much fun.
6) Do you want to compete with your dog in a sport (e.g. agility, obedience, rally) or use your dog for a form of work (e.g. hunting, herding, livestock guarding)? If so, how much experience do you have with this work/sport?
A companion dog with potentially recreational sport activities during free time. No working.
Care Commitments
7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?
It's difficult to say. I would most likely be spending almost all my spare time with my dog, but I'd still like a dog that has a good off-switch. 3-4 hours on weekdays, and more on weekends?
8) How long can you exercise your dog each day, on average? What sorts of exercise are you planning to give your dog regularly and does that include using a dog park?
1-2 hours most days. Some days 0 walks or maybe around the block. Some days long hikes and 4+ hour walks. Dog parks, walks on the beach and in forests, regular fetch, swimming.
9) How much regular brushing are you willing to do? Are you open to trimming hair, cleaning ears, or doing other grooming at home? If not, would you be willing to pay a professional to do it regularly?
I would be OK with doing all sorts of maintenance with home or at a groomers. I would prefer lower maintenance, but I'm not very bothered.
Personal Preferences
10) What size dog are you looking for?
Any size between a toy poodle and a Eurasier. I like medium sized dogs but I'm not that bothered.
11) How much shedding, barking, and slobber can you handle?
Shedding I have no issue with. Slobbering, I would highly prefer little to none. For barking, I get very nervous at sudden loud noises. I don't mind quieter barks (or yaps), and chatty / howling dogs who aren't loud are fine. I understand that it's often possible to train out barking tenancies, but it's something I'd prefer not to deal with. I also get that inevitably, a lot of dogs are gonna bark and I'm fine with that.
12) How important is being able to let your dog off-leash in an unfenced area?
Very important!
Dog Personality and Behavior
13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?
Snuggly without being overly clingy!
14) Would you prefer a dog that wants to do its own thing or one that’s more eager-to-please?
Eager-to-please
15) How would you prefer your dog to respond to someone knocking on the door or entering your yard? How would you prefer your dog to greet strangers or visitors?
Ideally, my dog would be a one-person-pet and we would have a special bond, but still polite or friendly to everyone. I'm not looking for a guard or alerting dog.
16) Are you willing to manage a dog that is aggressive to other dogs?
Yes, but only if it could be managed with training and I could leave the dog alone with another pet.
17) Are there any other behaviors you can’t deal with or want to avoid?
Can't deal with -> barking loudly and incessantly, high prey drive, and rarely interested in listening to commands
Want to avoid -> separation anxiety, aggression, and possessive behaviour
Lifestyle
18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?
My boyfriend works from home but occasionally goes into the office. <1-2 hours most days, occasionally (rarely) <8 hours.
19) What are the dog-related preferences of other people in the house and what will be their involvement in caring for the dog?
My boyfriend loves corgis, he likes to play with dogs and teach them tricks too. He's happy doing as much of the caring as needed if I'm not available.
20) Do you have other pets or are you planning on having other pets? What breed or type of animal are they?
No other pets. I'm planning to have my friends and family visit with their dogs (terriers and spaniels). I'm also planning to get another dog and a cat one day.
21) Will the dog be interacting with children regularly?
No
22) Do you rent or plan to rent in the future? If applicable, what breed or weight restrictions are on your current lease?
Not applicable
23) What city or country do you live in and are you aware of any laws banning certain breeds?
United Kingdom. Banned dogs: Pit Bull Terrier, Japanese Tosa, Dogo Argentina, Fila Brasileiro.
24) What is the average temperature of a typical summer and winter day where you live?
Summer -> 15°C-30°C
Winter -> 0°C-15°C
Additional Information and Questions
25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.
No brachycephalic dogs please
26) Feel free to ask any questions below.

Hello everyone
I’m 25m been staying with my 23f gf for the last 8 months. Things at my parents house didn’t seem to mesh well as I was getting older and my parents were becoming more strict.
On top of that my mom heard that I had a gf and didn’t agree with me about dating someone while I was broke. Instead of letting me handle my business, she continued to play on it and it ended up driving me out of the house. I’d come home from doordashing and she’d tell my siblings to call the cops on me if i tried to come in my house. Some days I’d even sneak through the window because of how small my car and how cramped my body would be sleeping in my car
This made me realize that whatever I thought my family was it truly wasn’t my parents. Driving me a way when I don’t have a job or an address for mail. All over the opinion of my gf.
Well, I decided I’d stay out and try to work things out. Since I couldn’t get a place we decided to move in together and rent a hotel room.
Again, I have no job or a place to stay so I found it as a great opportunity to start fresh.
I’m a really task oriented person so meaning I have to always be doing something an productive. The first place we moved had a lot of restaurants around but I didn’t want anything like that as I’ve worked places like that before and felt like it was downgrade.
As I’m job searching, I also thought it’d be great to instill boundaries since me and my gf was living together. Everything was good for about a month then, all of a sudden I was too controlling for asking my gf where she was or let me know when she’s on her way home from work.
The respect slowly but surely went out the window. The room became her control room. Going to bed at 2 am because of how she’s a “late” eater. Leaving the room instead of talking things out when she’s upset, even fighting me in some instances.
I became more stressed out, it felt like the person that was trying to help me wasn’t. I was just being baited for abuse. Psychological abuse. Then I started to get called names, I’d ask her “what she say” and I’ll get I’m hearing things.
Eventually the thought of getting a job and working and grinding was out of the window. I felt trapped like what the fuck am I doing and how am I going to move forward.
Fast forward 6 months later same thing is going on.
I am tired. I want to work and will eventually but I feel like a fool for moving in with my gf. Everyday I feel like an idiot waking up beside her I’m bed and knowing that this woman doesn’t respect me. Only wants to fill me up and pour me any chance she gets.
Nothing else.
I don’t really talk to my parents because of how shady they’ve been about putting me on the streets.
I feel lost.